If he's trying to drive me away....

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Registered: 04-21-2003
If he's trying to drive me away....
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Sun, 04-22-2007 - 9:33am

It's working. Shane knows that I have a job and that I work 7AM to 3. He also knows that it has been his duty to get my son to school because I leave at 630. So he says he's moving out this week and I asked him if he planned to be at our house at 630 for me to leave. He said no. I told him my shift begins at 7 and I cannot leave Dylan at home alone and cannot leave work to take him nor can I be late. He said I"d just have to figure out a new shift to work and work that out with my boss. I objected and he said he'd come up here and talk to my "faggoty A** boss" (he's gay so that means it's okay for him to say that, I guess) "and tell his superior about him hiring his boyfriend in a cushy job with no weekends or holidays so he has no choice but to give me what I want". Oh yeah, insults work well. Why do I even bother with this man? Why do I want to be married to him? This is ridiculous. His moving out is affecting my job now. I have tried to maintain a strong and positive outlook at work so I can do my job and he's now putting me in a position to ask my boss for a later shift when I was hired to work this one. I'm pissed, no doubt!

~Mel~

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Registered: 04-19-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 4:14pm

I whole heartedly agree with all these women. My husband has turned EVIL since I started standing up for myself. Personally, I dont think he is trying to drive you away. He is cutting the strings. He will not willingly take anymore responsiblity, whether he should or not. At this point my husband only takes responsiblity or helps with something when he feels it will benefit him somehow. He screamed and fussed that I was taking his kids away from him. He now lives on the same street, a five minute walk....do you think he sees the kids? Only a couple hours every other sunday or so...unless I ask him to babysit for some reason. And he would give as little support as possible if he had any say about it. I am having to spend a lot of money here in germany to ensure that I am not accused of kidnapping when I return to the states...because he would do it if he got pissy. Protect yourself, and ultimately your kids!!!

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 8:03pm
Gosh it's been so long! I'm sorry your engagement ended. I know relationships suck. Many of them. I just don't even believe in love anymore. I'm tired of being left by men I love. It's just too hard. I am going to seek legal assistance with the separation and get what is mine. I will fight hard this time. I didn't last time. If he wants to challenge me, well, bring it. I'm tired.

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Wed, 04-25-2007 - 2:27pm
How is it going now Mel? Did you manage the juggle between the DS and the work dilemma?
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Thu, 04-26-2007 - 8:05pm

lissa, your best bet would be to start planning ahead regarding your child. I relied on my ex-H to help with OUR kids because I also have to be to work at 7:00 and he was a complete a$$ about it. Fortunately for me I work 12 hour shifts and two of the days that I work are day when the kids are at his house. Fridays I have to worry about my youngest DD's care before school. She goes to my sister's house and catches the bus from there and then goes to after-school care until 5:00 and then my mother picks her up and brings her to my house and my older dd (who's almost 15) watches her and helps her make supper until I get home at 8:00.

That hasn't stopped my ex from giving me a hard time though. He just wants to be a jerk so likes to invent things to be pissed about.

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Fri, 04-27-2007 - 8:53am
I arranged to go later to work, but only 30 minutes. I am trying to transfer departments so I do not have weekends or holidays to work but "policy" says I cannot until I've been here a year. Stupid. Especially since I have worked at the other part before and all I'd have to do is sit down and work. But they are more willing to consider another person they have to train to go over there instead. STUPID!!!

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