I'M BEING SUED BY EX!!!!
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| Tue, 11-22-2005 - 1:02am |
I was at class tonight and the police made my granny sign papers serving me. My ex is suing me for court costs, lawyer fees, and visitation! First, I'm basically on welfare, I have no money, and no way to pay his lawyer fees, let alone mine! Now I'm going to have to find a way to pay for my lawyer again b/c I have to be in court on Dec 2, the day after my birthday. He's stating that he never got to see dd - ever, which is a lie! Everything in the papers is a lie! I don't know what to do! Just when I think this crap is finally going to be settled and done with he does something stupid like this! WHY?!? Why is he continuing to do this stupid bull crap? What do I do now? I don't have any documentation of when dd went with him b/c it's been so long. I know for a fact that she spent days with him, went 200 miles away with him for 2 nights and 3 days to visit his mother, he had her when his sisters came home for 2 days, had her for her birthday, and many more, but I don't know the exact days. He's such a complete jerk! I'm having to hold back my tongue right now!!! What do I do? Can he take dd away from me? He's suing for the "time lost" with her! What freaking time lost? He's also saying that I'm in contempt of court with the visitation that the other judge did not sign off on and still hasn't! That's the whole reason we got a temp visitation schedule, signed by a judge so ex would have to give dd back when he took her! This is sooooooo crazy! The other judge is partially to blame in my opinion! If he would have just freaking signed everything to begin with none of this would be happening!
What do I do?
Kait

My exh has taken me to court more times then my DS's age. He has asked for legal fees every time. He has never gotten every thing he asked for and he has never been awarded legal fees.
This is the way the courts work. He has the right to take you to court over visitation. It sucks, but that's the way things are. People do lie in court, but judges see through that.
You will have to get a lawyer or go it alone. Whatever you do, do not go into court hysterical. No drama in court. Just the facts, Ma'am.
You should visit the divorce boards on iVillage. You'll see that what you're dealing with is not unusual.
One other thing, if I were you, I would start calling DD when she has visitation and I would pick her up myself if the order said that I had to provide transportation home from visits. If you leave that job up to your grandma, it sends the message that someone else (besides you) is providing the child care when DD is in your possession. I know that's not the case, but that's how it looks to a judge.
Talked to my lawyers legal secretary today. She said that this whole thing is absurd. I can't be sued over this whole visitation thing b/c there was no signed visitation order until last week. Whatever the case may be, I'm not going to get REALLY worked up over this. Last night I was livid, but after talking to the legal secretary I feel better. I'm going to have to set up a payment plan with my lawyer, which we will discuss next Tuesday when I meet with him.
I found some documentation of when my dd went with ex starting in March until May this year. From May until July ex was living with me again. However, he lied in the papers and said that he was only with me for about 3 weeks, but I have proof that he was here from May until July. I talked to my sister as well who actually started a journal during this period. She wrote down the times that ex had dd from July until now, so I think I'm going to be okay. Thank goodness for my sister! I don't know why I didn't document EVERY LITTLE THING myself, but no use crying over spilt milk now, right.
I know that I'm telling the truth and that my ex and his family are just mean, angry, lying people that are trying to hurt me. They are mad b/c of the r/o and they are trying to hurt me through my dd.
I just wish that all of this would be over and done with. But, quoting from my lawyers legal secretary, my ex doesn't have a leg to stand on - I'm hoping!
Keep dd and me in your thoughts and prayers!
Kait
Kait,
It will work out, your lawyer is on your side and he will fight for what's right.
Kait,
That is a relief - good to hear you talked to the legal secretary right away and that she made some sense of this.
I think that as time goes by you will see more and more that he tries to ruffle your feather and he will learn he can't.
Best to stick to the RO and get others to deal with him until long after the dust settles.
One thing is for sure - when he gets his fill of trying to derail you and can't he is stupid, immature and reactive enough that he will start worrying about something else in his life and he will leave you alone.
Stay firm and strong. You do have a great family and lawyer behind you. It will get better. Have faith.