I'm Crushed

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I'm Crushed
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 11:54pm

EMT took a call from his ex girlfriend tonight while we were together snuggled on the couch. It was a lengthy and very friendly call that he ended with calling her "my dear". He calls me that often and it used to make me feel special. Not anymore. I just want to crawl under a rock. I am shocked that he even took the call from her, and made it lengthy, friendly and ended calling her a term of endearment. When did taking calls from ex girlfriends during dates become acceptable? Is it acceptable? Am I oversensitive? It probably wouldnt be so bad if it were his ex wife. But it was his ex girlfriend who left him suddenly to move to FL while he still had feelings for her.

Going to find a rock to crawl under. AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH

Laurie




Edited 10/29/2008 12:00 am ET by tsunami2008
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:00am

You know what, I wouldn't even THINK about it! Your honey is used to calling YOU that, so he just automatically said it. I get the same thing from ds' dad when I talk to him and he'll call me Babe.

To which I usually ask him not to call me Babe and he replies with, "oh sorry (his gf's name) and I remind him I'm not her LOL!

So NO overthinking!

The boy

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:05am
I don't think I would be okay with that but I know I have scars from my ex relationships where they weren't so faithful.
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 1:31am

I was taught it was rude to take calls when I'm on a date. I would turn off the phone when I got a call from someone when I was with Cute Widow. However she wanted me to take the call since she thought I was hiding something.

I agree with Alison on Medic using the same endearment term for the ex as well as you. Hard to keep coming up with unique "special" names for subsequent gfs.

Mark

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 8:00am
I'm with Mark.
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 8:29am

I think I am being patient with him still being friends with his ex wife but he really has no reason to continue with ex girlfriends. I'm with you on this one. You would think he would get it by now. He told me his last few girlfriends/dates broke up with him because he continued to be friends with his ex wife. I dont mind friends but his description of friendship and mine are way two different things. I mean considering going on a cruise with his ex wife while I stay home...come on.

Laurie

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Wed, 10-29-2008 - 8:34am

I have a huge problem with ex-girlfriends.

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 9:03am
It seems that in the last two posts, you are having more and more frequent issues. You need to start thinking if this guy is really serious or not. I'm thinking NOT. Doing the stuff he's been doing is just inconsiderate and hurtful. PERIOD. I think it's time to make a decision.
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:02am

I think we ALL know how I feel about exGF's LOL!!!

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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 10:09am
I am the same way!
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Wed, 10-29-2008 - 12:10pm

((((((((((Laurie))))))))))


Oh sweetie, I know how you feel! It SUCKS. I do not think you are over reacting at all. It was plain RUDE for him to take that call. In fact, why does he have close ties with her at all anyway..to the point of using terms of endearment? Ick...


What did you do? Did you say anything? I would have been hurt. And yeah, I totally get how the term "my dear" will not feel special. I've been through the ex thing with BE and I hated it. I had to make myself and myfeelings clear and I had to get to the bottom of why he still was taking her calls anyway.


I would talk to him, tell him that hurts. He will most likely defend himself and say it is

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