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Im devistated
| Tue, 08-24-2004 - 7:23am |
Jerry has told me that he wants me to have an abortion. He says it wasnt an easy choice but what he feels is the best for him. I have an appointment for Saturday and my sister is coming along with me. I am angry hurt and numb -- its over for Jerry and I. My life as I have known it is now over and I have never felt so alone...all I do is cry. Thought i would all let you know. Thanks to all who have given me such wonderful advice and support here. Im not going to even consider dating for a long time and have no desire to. Good luck in all of your lives.

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YYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
NEVER do ANYTHING you don't want to do. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER! You will be fine. Whether you do this with him or without him, you will be fine. You can do this. You are a strong, smart, loving woman. You are a mom. You can do this. We are all here for you. I am so glad you have decided to do what is RIGHT FOR YOU. I can't wait to hear all about the baby growing inside of you. :)
Mindy
http://cosmosandcranium.blogspot.com/
Oh Mary Beth!
WHOO HOO!!!!
MaryBeth, you just MADE MY DAY!!!! I am beyond thrilled that you made this decision for yourself and you are happy and excited about it. What a joy!
This is going to be fun, walking through this with both you AND Mel. I love babies!
So, have you expressed this decision to Jerry yet? Are you two staying together? I mean, it sounded like you had a great evening, but I don't want to assume this means you are ok.
Huge hugs to you. Now that you have made your decision, everything will work out. You are strong and you have a lot of people behind you. Lean on us when things get tough. We are all behind you.
Donna
MaryBeth,
I'm so glad to hear from you!
Thanks Maggie you have always been very supportive to me.
AS to your thinking Jerry was insensitive-- Jerry didnt know thats how I felt when I saw the pregnant woman- the babies and the pictures-- I didnt share that with him. I started crying as we woke up and from his point of view- its was pretty out of the blue. He knew after a moment what it was without my saying and he cried too. He is also in alot of pain. His thing is - he doesnt want to make a mistake and his previous marriage began with a unplanned pregnancy that ended up being hell for him. He doesnt want to make that mistake again, I told him he needs to look forward - that I am not his ex and I a woman who loves him and damn it has given tenfold -- if he loves me-- he should view this as a gift. An abortion is not something you wish on the woman you love- it would take all my diginity and I would never forgive him. He knows now that Im not going to have the abortion-- I would have to be drugged and kidnapped to do it. I dont have it in me. I also told him again I WANT this baby. Even if its alone.
Im feeling really ok about it finally which is the really great part about it-now that I made the choice I really want and have declared it-- I feel almost free about it. :) i cant wait to see the ultrasound next week-- I was disappointed when the nurse who scheduled it said I had to wait ...
I am glad you are prepared to do this alone.
Kim
L (((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))
I am in awe of you right now. I can't tell you how much I respect you for the decision that you have made. I know that I don't know you that well, but after I read your first post (this one) I went back and read all the others. You are an incredibly strong women (it was obvious from your postings) YOU CAN DO THIS... You have a great support system here- and I have LOTS AND LOTS of baby stuff that my little girl (who is almost a year) doesn't need. I would rather it go to you who needs it, than some random E-bayer! You let me know if you need anything, and I'll mail it to you! I am so excited for you, and I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I have hopes for Jerry too, I would give him some time to adjust to this, and I have a good feeling that he'll be coming around. Good For You Girl!
Stacey
(once again my email is SKeehn2000@yahoo.com) I look foward to the updates of your baby as we all go through this together!
And who knows, he might even come around and marry you and it will be a blessing in disguise. At the very least, you win - you will have a beautiful child!!
Keep us posted - it is so wonderful to hear stories about a pregnancy!! Brings back fond memories.
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