I'm divorced twice - how to tell him?
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I'm divorced twice - how to tell him?
| Wed, 01-21-2009 - 7:24pm |
I'll try to summarize what's been going on...
I'm 46 with a 12 year old and a toddler. I met a man

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"I get the feeling he wants to see if there is a reason to rule me out before he cuts the girlfriend loose."
So, he wants to line up the next girlfriend before he breaks up with his current girlfriend?
Hi Arwen, welcome to the board.
There's nothing wrong with divorce, and you should not feel ashamed of the choices you make in your life: they are what has made you what you are today, and brought the children you have into your life! Be proud of who and what you are!
As for the guy- why bother worrying about what he thinks? The guy has a girlfriend, he's off limits. No matter what he tells you about his current relationship, the fact is- you're having an affair, even if it's not yet physical. How would you like to be the girlfriend having your guy pursue someone else instead of talking to you about the problems or leaving so you can find someone who appreciates you?
Think more of the example you want to show your children- if your 12 yr was in your position, what advice would you give him?
I'm sure that you've just gotten yourself caught up in the attention this man is showing you... so give your head a shake and look elsewhere for a mate. If he's willing to set up the next girl while still in a relationship now, how long til he would do it to you? Go ahead and tell him about both divorces, and then throw in a line about YOU hating two timing cheaters...
First of all, DITTO!!!! on what everyone here has said
Secondly, if I read that right he's 52 and never been married what the heck does he know about marriage and divorce? So what if you've been divorced 2x's, you had the smarts to get out of bad situations.
Hello Arwin,
Jumping on the band wagon here. I'm in agreement with the rest. The truth is that you are the only one who knew and knows what was and is best for you. If a man
It's a different situation than I am used to, because we have so many friends in common, I know I'm going to run in to him in the future, so I want to keep the outcome
Explain what?
That you love yourself more than you desire the misguided attentions of an attached man? He needs no explanation that you're going to look elsewhere for love- he'll get it.
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