I'm fuming w/ anger! German MEN!

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I'm fuming w/ anger! German MEN!
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Thu, 12-02-2004 - 7:39am
As you know I am not dating or looking for a relationship. Last weekend, I met this guy at a night club while I was out with friends of mine. Even tho I didn't really feel like it, I gave him my number because he was harmless and seemed friend material, but NOTHING more. Don't get me wrong ladies, but this guy seemed a bit feminine. He was 33 with a great job in creative marketing for various TV stations, he did 12yrs of modern dance, in a class that consisted of 95% women, but the worst is, he's 33 and lives still at home. He was in one relationship that actually lasted 7yrs and he never moved in with her.
Now, this guy was told that HE is ONLY a friend and NOTHING more will EVER come out of it. He knows I have children and he knows how independent I am, etc. He keeps telling me how taken aback he is by my strength. I am not interested in a guy that lives at home with his parents, even though he makes so much money, he could be living hog fat someplace else. Basically, to me he's spoiled, cheap and just ACK! He called me last night and I agreed to finally have a drink with him at the Christmas Market for two hours. We met up and our whole conversation consisted of me telling him I am not interested in him more than friendship, his lifestyle does not fit mine and I will not date another german again!
We say goodbye and he sends me a message on my cell saying that he felt he was on a roller coaster with me and can't figure me out which is really dumb, but he also kind of attracted to that and was glad to finally meet me again. Now, it sounds relatively harmless translating this in English, but what he meant is that he wasn't sure how to catagorize me in relationship factor. I'M NOT RELATIONSHIP factor. Or I AM but this guy isn't. IN GERMANY A HUGE amount of men in their 30's still live at home. We're really talking a huge amount. Every 4th guy. ANd if they aren't then they went straight from the family house to getting the long time girlfriend (as in 5-12yrs of dating)pregnant, then marrying and then making the wife slave, cook, clean and be subserviant to them. IT'S awful and just plain sickening. I'm so angry that this guy, who basically in my book, wants nothing but a shag, is not getting the hint. I lit into him so bad last night after I got the message, but I am still ticked that these men here think and treat the women here as if we should cater to them and thank god that they were created. I can'T wait to go back to the states. 18 months seems so long now!

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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 11:19am
YEAH! I'LL GET A T-SHIRT PRINTED WITH EXACTLY THAT ON IT!!!! LOL!!
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Fri, 12-03-2004 - 12:14pm

Catherine:

I just LOVE your stories. They certainly make me laugh. And I love your attitude. You need to teach me to be like you - see ya, bye, next. Man, I have to learn how to be like that. When you move to Texas, I just have to come visit. We should get a sitter and go out on the town one night -- that would be a riot! And maybe we could get West to go with us too. Three single, "hot" women out on the loose -- watch out Texas!!!!!

Donna

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