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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 1:58am

We had a nice time...talked for 3 1/2 hrs...talked about lots of things......I wanted the truth out of him and why his behavior is the way it has been. So he told me. It wasn't what I expected. He was REALLy hurt in his marriage. So he's a bit tainted. He had come to the conclusion ALL women were the way his ex was. I had to explain to him that we are NOT all the way she was. And that it really made me feel bad that he was grouping me in the same category with her. He was stunned into silence. Apparently, no woman has stood up to that statement. They just said see ya! Anyway, looking directly into my eyes

~Karen
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 10:55am
Being careful Rebecca. Time and patience will tell...

~~Tiny


I want

~Karen
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:01am
Hi Shrimpy , yes I am a bit more involved emtionally. Part of it is attraction and part of it is genuine caring for another human being. I won't/can't fix him. He definitelty has some baggage..seems like a heavy load to me. Mine is pretty light in comparison. I do know that caring for him is a risk. I have to do what's best for me in the long run. So if just us being friends and some to share with is why we were brought together then, it'll have to be. I am great friends with my ex so it is possible!

~~Tiny


I want

~Karen
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:06am
First off what's OP?? lol...I'm going to take this day by day. I know he's hurting more than he says..you can see it. It isn't for me to judge or even coax anything else outa him. I'm in strong "like" with him and am going to be leading this with my head and mnot my heart b/c he obviously has trust issues. Can't fix him...like I said before I can be me....People come into our lives for a reason......You all did for me!

~~Tiny


I want

~Karen
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:10am

OP= original poster (of a thread)... good thing to use when redirecting the talk back to the original topic if the conversation takes off into some other tangent!


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:12am
Oh TRUST me when I say I know it doesn't work that way! Tried it with the ex and my exbf/boss....you can't change anyones thinking/feelings. You can't even show them the way. What I can do is be me and genuinely care for him...no strings..AND no sex!

~~Tiny


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~Karen
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:49am

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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 12:10pm

I can completely understand where you are coming from. I

~Karen
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