I'm hoping this won't be too much..

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I'm hoping this won't be too much..
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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 9:43am

4-days and counting, things have been pretty quiet around here.

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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 6:49pm

You are right that it is about your marriage and not only about his son. Reading this last post, it is so clear that the two of you should be in marriage counseling. You are talking and he's not hearing you. He is making decisions that you are resenting. This is too big for one letter to begin to touch on, and I think it's way too big for the two of you to figure out on your own. You maybe have 5 different emotions that you are struggling to sort through, he's probably got 3 and his ds might have 10 (all of which are throwing wrenches into the emotions the two of you are having). To get through this successfully, you need professional advice and guidance. If I were you, I would take the letter to the first counseling session.




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Fri, 03-04-2005 - 7:00pm

If I were you, I would take the letter to the first counseling session.


Excellent idea! Jas and I have enjoyed our sessions. There's NO opportunity for out of control arguments and miscommunications. We get SO MUCH more real work done with a mediator, and we both come away feeling better.

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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 1:28pm

I agree.

If he won't go then go by yourself - make it your FIRST priority for the week - Monday or Tuesday - now - don't wait.

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 7:24am

Oh Marilyn, I can truly understand what you mean about lack of trust, and disgust at the moment. You have every right to feel that way. I'm truly sorry your hurting so much. I suggest for your own sanity, you give him an ultimatum regarding counseling. This cannot go on for you and your family. The more stress you put on your family and the longer this goes on, will really mess up your own life and those of your children. He needs to find out where his priorties lie and if he says no to counseling, then you know his main priority is his son. His son is then more important then his marriage to you and the family he made a commitment to. That is how I see it.

Big hugs and let us know how your holding up.

- Catherine

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Sun, 03-06-2005 - 9:49pm

((((((((((((Marilyn and family))))))))))))





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