I'm Sick of ALL of It!

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Registered: 04-09-2003
I'm Sick of ALL of It!
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Thu, 01-05-2006 - 2:51pm

The new atty called me this morning after speaking with my old lawyer. He told me that my old lawyer assured him that the hold up on the decree and visitation schedule had nothing to do with him. He said that basically the judge could hold the decree for as long as he wanted. Okay...it's been over 10 months now. So I guess that this can just go on for years and years, right? How can this be legal? The new atty also believed my old atty and said that there was nothing he could do for me. Legal aide can't/won't help me either since the judge hasn't signed the orders (they consider it an ongoing case). I went on docket with my old atty and I have to stick with him until it's over and done with.

Well...after getting off the phone w/ the new atty, my old one called me. I didn't answer. I checked my cell phone for messages while ago, and guess who left me a message - my old lawyer. He was yelling...told me to call him immediately, that we had things to discuss, and he wasn't happy with me. Oh well...and I'm not calling him either.

I guess the only thing I can do is bug the crap out of the judge. I'll be sending him one letter a week until it's signed. I have spoken to the court advocate about all this and she's going to call me back today after speaking with her superior. Maybe they will have some way of helping. I've also contacted DFS about the neglect with my exh. Who knows what will happen.

I just don't see how this can be legal. It's the most absurd thing I've ever gone through and no one knows what to do or how to help, or they just won't.

DD goes again tonight, but only for one night this week. I just hope and pray she comes back in one piece.

Kait

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 8:44pm

Can you take a trip to the courthouse to talk to the clerk or the judge? Perhaps there is one small snafoo with the paperwork? You just have to get to the bottom of this. I am not sure of the process so I cannot offer help.

But you have done good to get the new lawyer to help you and now you realize the old dodo lawyer did not impede the process the way you thought he did.

I would not waste a lot of energy on talking to the old lawyer unless you need something specific. He will cool down in a couple of days - and now he will respect you.

I do think you should contact the BAR on his inappropriate behavior - but wait to do that when you get the thing with the judge sorted out - I would not want to see you waste precious time or energy when you could be getting the issue with your ex sorted out.

I am sure that the court system is overwhelmed with these cases - too many cases and too few clerks - but whatever the delay you have to keep on going until you get to the bottom of it.

Keep on calling until someone nice helps - or just go there and see what you can find out.

Hopefully someone here will be more familiar with the process to help even more.

Stay focused and don't give up! I think you have a good case to get things more the way you want.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 01-05-2006 - 10:17pm

Kait,


I know you're tired of this all, but don't give you, you're so close!


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