I'm SO Excited!!!!!

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I'm SO Excited!!!!!
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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 1:54pm

I'm so excited!!! I got into nursing school! Out of the 230 applicants, only 45 were chosen for the program! I was so thrilled when I got the acceptance letter! This time next year I will have my LPN license, along with already having my EMT license! It's a ten month program that starts in August, and I'm so very ready! I feel like (at least some) things are coming together for me. I know that it'll be hard, but it won't last forever, and the outcome will be so good for Leah and me! I even received full tuition - which is a God send!!

The whole lawyer thing is coming to a close soon too. My uncle is giving me 1/2 the money to pay him off and the other 1/2 is coming from the doc. I will pay the doc off first (about $50 - $75 per month). I feel bad about taking the loan, and I didn't ask him for the $600, but he offered. With much deliberation, and talking about it with my mother, I feel that the best thing to do in the long run is to accept the loan, get the lawyer creep off of my back, and pay the doc back as quickly as I can.

I've also talked to him about out "relationship" and we both came to the mutual agreement that we are just friends and that he is going to cool it with the "love business." I was a little worried at first about taking the loan and it having some underlying meaning behind it. However, after the conversation we had, I don't think that it's going to be a problem.

As for crush (which I feel that I need to have a better name for him now - who knows), everything is going in stride I think. He called me last night and we ended up talking for about 3 1/2 hours. Last weekend we went out on a date, which was very fun! I met him at his house, we went for dinner, went to a bar that he bartends at on Friday nights and had a couple of drinks, went back to his house and watched a movie, talked, and then I went home. It was very sweet. At the bar we danced to a couple of songs and just laughed and had a good time. I was nervous, but I think that's to be expected. But I'm just taking it one step at a time and trying not to jump in again head first. But I have such a wonderful time when I'm with him. However, I have stuck behind what I said. I have not called him, I have not made plans with him, etc., he's the one that is doing the pursuing (I'm just not really resisting when he does make plans). I don't want to play games, but I somehow find myself trying to seem aloof in some ways. I don't always answer the phone when it rings...lol...I keep myself busy at work, and have plans that don't include or revolve around him. He knows that I'm busy, and I make it look like I'm busier than I actually am, and it seems to be working to my advantage. Who knows - but I'm just going to see where this goes, if anywhere.

I'm just a little excited with everything right now!

Now if only I could get Leah to use the potty! She's 2 1/2, starts preschool in August, and WILL NOT use the potty for ANYTHING! Any suggestions on how to go about potty training? I know she's ready. If she goes in her diaper she demands that I change her. However, she won't use her potty chair, she won't use the potty seat that goes over the toilet (it's a Dora one and she says that she "can't sit on Dora" lol), and she hates the big potty! I'm at a loss!!!

Kait

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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 2:44pm

Congrats to your NS school acceptance ! Reading your post made me relive when I got accepted into college, it was truly one of the greatest accomplishments for me. Now, I'm not going to lie, it won't be easy. I went back to college to persue my B.S. with the intention of going to med school when my two adult kids were small ( didn't make it to med school, but I did get my degree). I remember my ds was also 2 1/2 and refused to use the potty and I was desperate because the day care only took potty trained kids. What worked for him were 2 things, first I took off the potty hookup off the ts, for some reason he felt comfortable using the ts as is. I guess because he saw that his older sister didn't need the ps. Second everytime we were home I made him wear regular little boys underwear, so when he had an accident he felt it and boy he didn't like the feeling at all. It's tough at first and messy, but just after a few accidents he willingly went to the loo to do his business. Kids won't train wearing a diaper, that's a fact. When he did attend day care seeing the other kids use a regular toilet it just reenforced it for him.

Good Luck, when she does go for the first time in the loo-make a big celebration out of
it they love that(positive reenforcement).

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Tue, 05-02-2006 - 3:58pm

Kait- congrats on nursing school! I'm so excited for you! It won't be easy, but knowing you earned that scholarship and out of so many applicants you were one of the lucky chosen few will help keep you motivated, I'm sure.

It also sounds like you and crush have a fun thing going, which is awesome.

As far as potty training, I'm not much help, both of my kids were way too easy. But, have you tried a sticker chart, or maybe a potty chair that sits on your toilet- like a plain one or something? Good luck, maybe someone else will have better ideas!


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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 12:26am

Oh, Kait, that's AWESOME news!!! Congratulations!!! It may be hard work, but the time will just fly by and this time next year you will have finished!!!

I'm glad you're getting that scummy lawyer paid off, just make sure you pay back that doc ASAP!!

As for crush, I think you're doing well to let him pursue you. Men love a challenge, and the more that you seem to be busy and "not thinking of him", the more he will want to change that. Stick to your guns of NOT sleeping with him until he's talked about a committed relationship though, as hard as it is.

Now, with the potty training, I agree that you should take her out of the diapers, they DO slow down the process. I found with Nicolas, that I would negotiate the potty with everything he wanted to do. So, if he wanted to watch a movie, I would tell him, "ok, I'll put on the movie while you go potty..." And I would stand firm that I would not put on the movie until he did. He resisted at first, but then caught on pretty quick. It's funny because I still catch myself saying, "ok, I'll do (insert request) while you go to the bathroom..."

Good luck!




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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 5:59am

CONGRATULATIONS on acceptance into nursing school. I will pray that you get full tuition - that would really be great! It is so impressive that you got picked out of so many. You are right - this is going to put you on a good path in your life to be able to support yourself and Leah and to set a good example for her. I always LOVE to see it when a woman is working on furthering her career and ability to do all these things for herself and her children.

I am glad to hear that you are getting over the lawyer mess. Are you going to work on getting supervised visitation with the exh? Maybe you need a different lawyer or you can go through the court like Alison suggests.

I think you are playing your cards very well with your crush. ABSOLUTELY YES - let him do the pursuing. And I would not sleep with him again until he is talking exclusivity for sure.

About Leah - I have a boy so I don't know if what I did was helpful. I let him pick out his own underpants and he liked wearing those more than the diaper. We would put those on to play with his choo choo trains and he would watch TV. He had also really wanted this big and special toy - I think it was a toy vacuum cleaner - so I bought it. And I said you get to play with it when you can go peepee in the big potty! I said I know you can do it because you are a big boy. We would sit on the potty and read books. And I had candy when he would go. And if he had an accident I would make a game out of it so he wouldn't feel bad. "That is okay sweety - peepee just got away from us - mama cleans!" Something like that. I would think that a girl would love really pretty big girl underpants.

Good luck and keep us posted - your news is so uplifting to all of us!!!!! We are proud of you - you have come so so so so far from when you first started posting with us. And I do believe you have learned a lot and put our advice to good use.

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 3:53pm

Kait -
I am SOO Happy for you!!! IF anyone deserves FULL tuition it would be you girl!! My prayers are with you! That is just wonderful news!

I'm glad to hear that you are squaring away everything with the scummy lawyer and you have a good plan in place for repayment on the loans.

It's all starting to fall into place for you Kait, I can see it..

As for the potty training deal, well my dd (now 5)
gave me lots of trouble..She wouldn't sit on a little potty NOR the ring in the seat. She did use the regular potty and didn't start until she was 3 1/2. She might not be ready. The best thing to do is not push her into it. She'll go when she's ready. I know that you need her to be trained for school..however..lol.. she's got total control over that issue.;) and will resist if forced into it. ;) I do agree with getting her some 'big girl' underwear, and make a trip out of it.. go to the store, let her pick out what she wants, and let her help 'pay' for it, etc.. then maybe afterwards get an ice cream ;)
Whoop it up.. I know my daughter still loves picking out her own undies :) Let her try it on..but I wouldn't suggest forcing her to wear them if she resists..she may be one that doesn't transition well. My dd is that way.. so changing things are slow to progress.
I hope this helps some! Frustrating, isn't it!?! God, I don't envy you...Good Luck!

Lisa

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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 5:24pm

Congratulations on getting into nursing school!

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