I'm so lonely...

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Registered: 04-25-2005
I'm so lonely...
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Mon, 05-30-2005 - 11:50pm
Anyone have any suggestions to get rid of the blues? I'm just so lonely. I've been so hopeful up to this point about meeting someone, not to just be with someone, but to have someone to talk to when I get off work, someone who wants to know what my day was like...It just seems like all men are the same. The one I discussed in earlier posts, the one I work with, didn't seem to turn out as I had hoped. In fact, I don't think he's speaking to me. Why? I do not know. Blah! It went from everything being really nice to nothing at all. What happened? All I know is that I am gettin tired of being alone.Help.
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Registered: 03-04-2005
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:58am

Hi Jennifer,

Sorry to hear that things didn't work out with the guy from your job. That must have been a disappointment. Wouldn't it be nice if things just went smoothly with a guy for once? Don't worry- it will- with the right guy at the right time. But I know it's so frustrating.

I know what you mean about being lonely for a companion. Last night I had a nightmare and I woke up in the middle of the night with my heart racing. For a moment I was thinking that I wished I had a nice big guy next to me that I could cuddle up next to so I wouldn't be afraid anymore. I fell asleep soon enough and made it through the night, of course (no axe murderer showed up after all) but it is really those little things that I miss more than big things.

It's just what you were talking about- someone to chat about your day with, etc. I want someone to have coffee with in the morning on a nice porch while listening to the birds chirping. I want someone to come home to/someone to come home to me.

I suppose this post probably hasn't helped you. If I can't offer advice, I can at least offer support. Hang in there and keep on posting.

Amy

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:13pm

Hi Jennifer,

Sorry to hear you had a disappointment with that guy. Dating is frustrating at best.

I know you are tired of being alone - I know how that feels. The only thing you can do is try not to think about that and keep yourself very busy.

Do you have access to a gym? Any interests? House projects? The more you can do the better.

All of a sudden one day you won't feel this way - and I think that comes from having supportive people in your life along with time and activities.

I think one of the worst things you can do when you are lonely is to want a guy to fill that void. You will pick the wrong guy and then you will be worse off. Try to be the best you can be so that when the right one comes along you are ready and strong.

Cheers - I hope I have helped. I know the others here will have some more good stuff to say. Amy was very kind in her support!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 6:05pm
What interesting hobbies do you have to pursue? What's something that you've been wanting to do, but never have done it? There was a post long ago here challenging us to step up and do something daring. It will feel good for you to have one thing on your list checked off. What IS on your list?
I want to point out that you can be lonely WHILE you're in a relationship. Focus on yourself and pursue your dreams. What makes Jennifer an interesting woman?
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Wed, 06-01-2005 - 11:22am

I wrote a post to amy regarding her similiar problem. Maybe it will help you realize, it's ok to feel that way and it's part of the healing process and most of all, WE HAVE ALL BEEN THEIR, WE HAVE ALL FEE/FELT THAT.

Hugs,
Catherine