I'm sorry Judy....
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I'm sorry Judy....
| Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:08am |
I just can't seem to get through that 30 page note from MA...
LMAO!!!
I have forwarded it to S for a male's point of view :)

| Wed, 01-09-2008 - 11:08am |
I just can't seem to get through that 30 page note from MA...
LMAO!!!
I have forwarded it to S for a male's point of view :)

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OMG! GUILTY OF THE LENGTHY PAIN SENDING emails and letters!
Matter of fact, I am JUST NOW learning not to do that. I try to write things in an email and put it in draft and then delete the next day. Go ahead.. guess how long I've been doing that???
A WEEK! LMAO! I have been trying to control my emotions and feelings for a week now. Not wigging out and causing unnecessary drama over my own insecurities, but actually trying to just write my own feelings and thoughts down and thanking God I haven't sent any of it Nascar this week. Once I have gotten out of my freak stage and read what I've written, I have realized how downright pathetic, sad, negative and desperate I must have sounded too so many. The more I read it, the happier I am that
Oh we know--you are saving those camo PJ's for your next sleepover!
April
Wow myprecioustwo.
LOL!! I was thinking that if I wore them outside at night I will blend in with the bushes and the neighbors won't know I am in my PJs.....?? Ya think?
I have noticed that I learned a lot of lessons in this experience - that I am going to look much more closely at communication in the beginning and speak my mind even better rather than try avoid conflict or just work on making it work. I need someone who will work to resolve conflict - not be hugely defensive and try to win it! Of course not everyone is like this one!!
I also see that it is very valuable to let anger simmer down and work on making your message understood and productive. I think Mark brought that up to us in another thread.
But no worries - I am not having any more communication with him and delete delete delete is the motto.
(((HUGS)))
April
Yes, I can relate. I had a few doozies as well as far as date rape and never having a faithful partner. However, I didn't know that about them. OH well.
I know I can always come here and I occasionally do, but somethings are just best left in my book to deal with them differently. I'm more of
So sorry MA will just not GO AWAY! 8 weeks, how can one get so wrapped up in someone else in 8 weeks? The Smothering post surely applies with him. Get someone else to send him that one. And yes, the rage episodes are like PsychoBoy. It's like being with a very overgrown 2 year old.
I'd have to say though I spent plenty of time writing letters to PsychBoy as our marriage disintegrated, none were 30 pages though, and we were together 30 years. I stopped giving him these letters after we split and he moved out because I decided it was not, nor had it ever been, my responsibility to teach him how to be a human being. And I was sure by then that he didn't give a rat's behind about my feelings, if I was upset, it probably made him feel good. I still wrote stuff, but then I destroyed most of these writings after I had processed the event that had upset me. I did send a few short e-mails I regret to 3month Fling Guy when that went south. I won't do that if things go south with M. I recognize when I'm feeling insecure and some irrational baggage issue has reared its ugly head. I still write out how I'm feeling but don't email M nor call him and get all weird on him. That is part of the reason I cherish my alone time. I can work out my emotional issues on my own time, not saddle anyone else with it.
QueenBun
Oh Cat- (((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
I know this reflection has been really tough, but you sound like you're doing so well from it.
Wow!
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