Incredible day in court!
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| Mon, 10-27-2008 - 10:17pm |
FINALLY - someone has listened. Its been an incredibly emotionally greuling road, but finally, the courts have recognized the issues in my domestic case. This will be long, I apologize ahead of time.
I went to court today, for the RO hearing, armed with the 2 voice mails, extremely abusive in nature, threatening & swearing, telling me he quit his job because his pay was garnished for child support. Also had transcripts of the past 6 months or so of any abusive texts messages & print outs of emails. & lastly, printouts of the whole Face Book fiasco where he posted to me publicly that I “looked like a fat pig” & accompanying all that, were the copies of the postings he sent to my freinds FaceBook pages (whom he didnt know), 15 of them, & the degrading comments he made about me to them, as well as comments to them personally such as “your baby is ugly”, “you’re a fag”, & lots of expletives.
What I expected to be a fast RO granted or not granted (based on past judge experience), this new female judge lived up to her reputation of being extremely tough on men who were abusive. She just took over the bench on Sept 1. To put it in perspective, in 3.5 yrs of the past judge, I have had THIRTEEN court dates, NONE of which was I ever allowed to testify, nor did we ever even see a judge - & he refused to look at any documentation I provided on the issues.


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Isnt it great when Justice *finally* swings in your favor? Congrats!!
By the way, did this judge say anything or make any connection that your ex's atty also is your ex sil's atty trying to get a RO? Just curious...
Remember, when I received my order of protection, the judge very clearly stated "Remember, this is just a piece of paper. You need to protect yourself". Just keep that in the back of your head.
What was your ex's reaction to the judges order of 3 yrs protection? Oh I wish I could've been a fly on the wall for your court!!!
Earlier that day, b4 our testimonies, the judge asked both attys to come to the bench.
JH
Reaction from Taz:
Honestly, it might be the best thing for everyone if he did leave town-for good. What a louse. I hope your Psychiatrist doesn't fall for this. Chances are, he'll meet up with him, he'll be all dramatic saying goodbye, then wont leave. That wouldn't be good for your DD. Of course if he does leave, she'll be quite sad for a while but once you get a routine (well you have one already) without him, she'll be much better. It's the in and out that causes so much difficulty though (my ex has done this).....
Wait....when's your next court date? Is that before or after 3 weeks from now?? I would make sure the Psych mentions those voice mail messages to the judge at the next court date as well....
And yes, I could imagine your ex sil's thoughts at watching her atty defend this idiot, then will have to turn around and try to get an RO for her. To me that's a huge conflict of interest. It's too bad she couldnt get your atty.....
Edited 10/28/2008 4:41 pm ET by debs1999
SO SO VERY RELIEVED and happy for you R, its bout da.... time.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
I too hope that the psych doesnt allow visitation for him to say goodbye until there is proof he is actually moving. Like notice to his apt if he is renting or a new signed lease somewhere else maybe? Or even a written letter from someone who is taking him in somewhere if that is what he is doing. But some sort of proof that he is indeed pulling up his roots and going. I wouldnt let Ave near him without it - he has put her through so much already and pretty much made it so your OTHER full time job is second guessing him and protecting her at every corner. Neither one of you should be put through any more shenanigans. I am sure your psych sees through this. And if indeed he is moving well honestly R I say thank God for both of you. I really feel it would be a good thing for all involved. He is showing no signs of changing and Ave deserves peace and no conflict around her while she becomes a young lady. Not to mention what YOU deserve in terms of just some freakin peace of mind and space to move on with your life...
BIG HUGS and tons of CONGRATS!!!!
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