Inlaws - your experiences wanted

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Inlaws - your experiences wanted
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 9:26am

Hi to all:

I was wondering if you would share your story with your inlaws. This can be past and preesent relationships. Do you like them? How do you handle the challenges they create?

The reason I am asking is because my inlaws were a huge problem in my marriage. I feel I should have had fewer expectations that they would be like my parents and I should have set much stronger boundaries much earlier on. But perhaps that is all in vain because my exh always felt everything was fine with his family until I came along!! Seriously - he did say that - and that was after I endured much hardship from them. It was also a final straw so to speak for my decision to divorce.

I am not sure if you remember the story I gave where I watched a mom struggle with a colicky infant on a plane and she started crying - it made me cry!! Because I remembered all of the bad trips to visit my inlaws with a colicky child when we didn't have the money for the horrible trips in the first place.

Okay - thanks for sharing your story!!

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 1:16pm

"I have horrible bad thoughts that I feel guilty about where I look forward to the day she dies. I know that's bad. But I am human, after all."

Knowing what she has done, I don't know that I think that's bad.

I know I've told you before, but I was very saddened by the fact that it was my ex's dad that died, and not his mom. I still think that had it been his mom that died, we would have been able to successfully work through ALL of our issues, and we would still be married.

My ex and I contemplated moving to Singapore when we were married. When we told her, she threatened suicide. She would have had no reason to live if she wasn't close to her "little boyfriend." I was willing to take that risk. I actually said "Really? I'd love to call your mom's bluff on that one." to my ex.

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 3:00pm

Ok, I keep telling you guys there are advantages to being an orphan. ROTFL!


I actually prefer men who have no living parents.


Trav and Izzy both fell in that category.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Fri, 02-18-2005 - 3:09pm

I actually prefer men who have no living parents.


ROTFL!!!! That's ONE way to avoid this nightmare! ;)

Becky

Becky

 

 

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