Input? A guy's perspective would be +++!
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Input? A guy's perspective would be +++!
| Sat, 07-05-2008 - 2:00am |
To not fill this up with SOOO much background but to give a little bit so this all makes sense:
-about 8 mths ago, my license plate was stolen and the Cst who handled the case was cute, friendly and flirty. I was dating someone at the time (which he subtly fished around or so I thought) so that was that. The thief was caught, Cst. Cutie called with a final update and I wished him well and left it at that.
-a month ago there was a

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I think you nailed it teddybearmike. OK, I admit, I hashed it out with my older sister this afternoon LOL And she said almost word for word the same thing. Chances are, because work email is not privacy protected, he answered back formally because he had to. And I admit it only dawned on me today that he can't go out with me if he's handling a complaint for me etc. Total conflict right? DUH on my part.
So that sucks. I did end up emailing him back a neutral (thanks for the advice everyone, West I used your wording!) and this is what I put:
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Well she's a renter here from what I understand, so she'll be around even
after summer ends.
TBMike brings up a good point, the guy is at work and his job probably has rules against meeting people for romantic relationships through work. But I also agree with the advice to let him take the initiative. He knows you are interested from the communication you've had so far. He knows where you live. He can find a way to contact you outside of his work life if he is so inclined.
QueenBun
I agree. It's up to him now. My understanding, which is only a loose understanding based on heresay, is that it makes sense if he's working on an active file on my behalf, we can't get involved. that makes sense. As for relationships through work, I don't think that's so much it as a friend of a friend dated an officer for over a year when he worked on a B&E case for her. I only assumed they got together after the case was closed, but flirted or what have you in between. I don't know that part. So I definitely left it in his hands. If he's interested and able, he'll contact me. Hell, he has my file, like you say he knows where I live lol has my home phone # etc.
I got an email back from him earlier today! I was really convinced that nothing could happen because of the situation, so I was very surprised to get this from him today:
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If you are ever up to it, I could drop in sometime after the kids are in bed when I'm on shift. I could even bring coffee. I work tonight and tomorrow night. Anyway, I'll check my e-mail later tonight. Till than.
D*****
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This is pretty exciting for me as I haven't asked someone out before LOL I'll keep ya'll posted.
and by then, it was too late."
I didn't get a good feeling from his first reply because he didn't suggest an alternate meeting, but I like that he showed an effort to get the time off for the concert.
That is so true: house = sex
BUT I was thinking since he is ON SHIFT and the kids are at home then he would not
but be on guard!!!!!!! ALERT ALERT!!
Yah, but he's already toying with the whole messing with a customer thing.. you'd think he'd be on his best behavior. I am all for the hanging around the house dates after the girls go to bed just to visit and hang out. Some can get hot and heavy yes.. but not all.
One guy even came over with a scrabble board.. I was like AWESOME!! haha.
and by then, it was too late."
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