instead of a card . . .

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instead of a card . . .
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 11:39am

You may remember that more than a week ago I asked all of you whether or not it was too cheesy to send my crush a simple thank you card after what seemed like our first "date" - after about six months of regularly meeting for drinks and hours of talking.

Here's an update:

My intuition was telling me that I needed to do make sure he knew that he didn't "blow it". Instead of sending a card I ordered a movie DVD he had mentioned during dinner that night. He had said that the movie was unique, really well done and he thought I would enjoy it as much as he did. I left the DVD on his chair at work when I knew he was out of the office (we still work for the same organization - but in different departments - now :)). When he found the DVD he asked me if it were Christmas. I said "not yet". Then I said that "I just wanted him to know that I enjoyed spending time with him." He said, "thank you". I said, "you're welcome". Then he suggested we watch the movie together this weekend. I told him that I would like that.

This is the first time that I've ever really looked forward to my kids spending the next 3.5 days with their father!!

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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 12:06pm

Woohoo!! Clever.

We want a report next Monday!!

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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 4:47pm
That is great. I'm happy for you and hope the evening is all you want it to be. I almost always look forward to my kids going to their dad's but if they don't I have to put over 100 miles on my car to take them to grandmas so I can work. Good for you dear.
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 7:58pm

Make sure he's not expecting anything physical. I don't know what it is, but men these days seem to think that watching a DVD together on the couch = sex. Or, alone in the house together = sex.

In the early dating stage, I kept my date out of my house and stayed out of his house.

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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 11:12pm
Ha! Veeeerrryyyy sneaky!

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 9:55am
Thanks for your concern. If this man were new to my life I would never risk being alone with him at one of our homes. However, this is someone I have been friends with for years. This will not be the first time that we are at each others homes. Not only do I trust him, but I wouldn't mind things getting a little more physical. I am not ready for sex, but I am ready for more than a nervous (on his part) hug.
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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:34am
What a great idea -- I'm so happy for you... I love leaving secret little meaningful notes, gifts, etc at the beginning of a budding connection too. It not only showed him you were listening to the conversation when he originally mentioned the movie, it also showed you wanted to go out of your way to do something special for him. Very smooooth mooove :) I hope your movie-date is wonderful. Keep us posted!