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Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:51am
Hello All !

I am curious about what the general perspective or concensus is, on the following questions;

Where do you draw the line on how young of a gentleman you would consider dating ?

(i.e. 2 yrs., 5 yrs. 7 yrs. etc. )

Where do you draw the line on how much older of a gentleman you would date ?

(i.e. 2 yrs., 5 yrs. 7 yrs. etc. )

Interested in hearing message board members opinions :) LM

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 10:59am
I'm not really into younger men because I don't want to have anymore children. I'd probably date someone who was 2 yrs younger (if he had kids already and didn't want more). As for older, I don't like them to be that much older. 5-7 yrs older is probably my limit.

My ideal partner would be about the same age. Maybe a couple of years older.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 12:12pm
I don't think you can look at just the numbers. I know I would prefer younger because I am very fit and young-minded - but I would not want someone younger than 30.

I would be wary of someone over 50 unless he was in good shape. And I have seen guys in their 50s who are in better shape than guys in their 20s or 30s.

It just depends on the person. Probably + or - 5 years is ideal but up to 15 is okay, too.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 1:08pm
Hi

I'm not single anymore, living with my SO but preferably I would not date a man more than a year or two younger than me and no more than five years older than me.

My SO is about 8 months younger than me and it really doesn't make any difference. I guess if I were still dating and I met someone who was outside my preferences age wise that I really liked, I'd be willing to give it a try.

Interesting question.

Tara

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 9:10pm
When I was younger I dated older men, up to 10 years my senior. As I got older, I dated younger men, as young as 5 years younger. Go figure! LOL

I think as a young woman I was much more mature than most of my friends. They were all out partying, getting drunk and having casual sex, while I was hitting the books, finishing my undergraduate degree and trying to land a good job. I attracted and was attracted to more mature men.

Now, I've got all that behind me and I can enjoy life. I've got the degree (and more on the way) and the great job. After I separated from my ex-husband, I felt carefree and young again, so I attracted alot of young men. The youngest to hit on me was 22 (I was 31) and I think right there was where I drew the line at just fun friends, no romance.

It's how well your maturity levels match that matter. I know a 30-something guy who is the maturity equivalent of an 18 year old and vice versa...so...I don't think you should get too hung up on the age.

My SO is a year and half younger than me, but it never really crosses our minds unless someone asks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 12:52am
Date, date? Like go out for a good time, not talking about having a relationship date? If he's out of his mom's house and can take me to dinner, I would have gone out with him...but older than me? Nah. Too mean and set in his ways, I found.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 9:55am
Where do you draw the line on how young of a gentleman you would consider dating ?

(i.e. 2 yrs., 5 yrs. 7 yrs. etc. )

I've dated someone 16 years younger than myself. That's my limit...I don't date a guy who's under 30. I don't personally think men are worth much before that. I tend to think that will always be my policy, though if I'm still dating at 70 I may want to up the limit.


Where do you draw the line on how much older of a gentleman you would date ?

(i.e. 2 yrs., 5 yrs. 7 yrs. etc. )

I've never dated someone my own age. Someone a couple of years younger, yes. I KNOW men who are 56 that I would date if they were single, but they're not. Their wives are smart enough to keep them around.

For me it's all how a man treats me, and if he keeps me interested with good conversation and lots of snuggling. Age isn't that big a factor for me. Everyone tells me I look ten to fifteen years younger than my age anyway, and I act a lot younger than that. LOL

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 10:40am
Honestly, I don't think much about age. I don't want some child, or some old geezer either, but I've dated older and younger. There are benefits to both.

I'm now married to an older guy. Only by three years. He's wonderful. But if he were older than that and treated me the same or younger and treated me the same, I'd be with him anyway.

Mel

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Registered: 11-08-2004
Mon, 11-08-2004 - 10:56am
Historically I have always done better with older men, even when I was much younger. My very few experiences dating someone my age or a few years younger is that they still had quite a bit of growing up to do. OTOH I couldn't see myself dating someone who has grandkids and is contemplating retirement within the next decade, it's just too different a life stage than where I'm at. My boyfriend is 8 years older than myself but IMO he's better-looking than many men in their 40s, not to mention more ready to have someone in his life again.
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Tue, 11-09-2004 - 1:34pm
I've never dated anyone younger than me. They have all be about 5 years older than me, except for my exh, who was one year older than me, and the last guy that I dated, he was 14 years older than me. When I first met him, I was concerned whether we would have anything in common. The more we talked and went out, age didn't seem to matter. However, he turned out to be a big jerk, but that's because he wasn't interested in a relationship, only sex. I'm not going to blame that on his age, because it may or may not have anything to do with it. I think he had some issues along the way that have made him the way he is. I think someone else said "old and mean". That described the way he acted when he told me he didn't want to see me any more. However, this one experience hasn't soured me on older men. I still prefer older men. If I did date a younger man, I wouldn't go any younger than a couple of years, and it would have to depend on the individual person. I don't think I could tolerate someone younger and a lot more immature than me but that's because I'm "old and set in my ways". For example, I have a friend of mine who is 2 years younger than me and he's a single dad. I prefer to keep things just friends, but not because of his age, because of other circumstances going on in his life. He has too much drama going on, and I have enough of my own, I don't need his drama too. We can talk and sound off to each other, and that's fine, but to take it on as part of a relationship, no thank you. Just my two cents.

Donna