Interesting date number three......

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Interesting date number three......
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 12:13am
Ok, so date number three went terrific, but the conversations of what we talked about left me kind of confused. Your probably wondering "why" when I tell you, but I don't know. Maybe I don't know what to think, here it goesssss....
We had a terrific dinner, talked and laughed like always. I drove to his place as Pac suggested and realized he doesn't live far at all from me. He could of driven, but now I know. I knew WHERE he lived, but I'm new in my own neighborhood and didn't think about half the short cuts that I knew until I got on the road.
SOOOOOOOOOOO
I went to his place and he was wow'd because I was WOW! LOL. I looked FABULOUS and SEXY. He's seen me look good, but not that good. LOL. We headed straight to the restaurant and as I said, we talked and talked and talked (with lots of laughing).
After two and half hours, we headed back to his place. We sat listening to the music and yes... making out. BUT NOT heavy kind, just kissing and snuggling. No serious stuff.
ANYWAY, this is where it gets strange. So we were just having conversations about holidays and we talked about what we usually do. He loves Thanksgiving and I don't really celebrate it, because it's not German and I don't have family here. So it's just very different. He said that maybe that will change this year and he can show me a real Thanksgiving. Ok...... so that was the first hint.
Then here is the part where I should have maybe not have jumped too quickly: He asked if I was available for Saturday night or if I had a hot date. I said that I do date other people but that I've been giving him preferential treatment and that Saturday is open. He then asked how many poeple I date and I said several, but that I momentarily enjoyed focusing on him. Then I said: And you? He said that he dates several, but that now I was his focus.
Somehow, in that not so clear way, I think we said we wanted to only see each other, but I'm not really sure, nor am I sure how to bring it up to be sure. Did we just commit or not? Then, I don't know if I want that yet. I mean I REALLLLLLLLLLY like him, but should I fold all my cards already again and give in? I don't think I want to do that and I'm not sure that is what we both meant. I meant that I did date others, that I do give him the number one spot and that I did enjoy focusing on him, but I don't think I meant to be committal. Now I feel like a dork. Should I just leave it and continue and just go out with someone else when I feel like it and without telling orrrrr should I just go out with him and no one else or should I wait a little and see, but then re-explain myself at the risk of him feeling hurt?
He mentioned that it would be too long to wait until Saturday to see each other and then he kept mentioning the places he'd like to go with me. And that he wants to introduce me to his best friend and her husband. Geesh.
Okkkkkkkkk
It's not that I'm NOT excited, but I just don't want it to get out of hand to quick and back into trouble. I really need to slow it down AND I really need to stay away from his place, because it can get pretty steamy with both of us. Our chemistry is explosive. I don't want that either. Especially since I am still having issues and need to see a Doctor first. I kind of want to bring that up too. I think it's important that I let him know that I really need to take things slow a little, to ensure our intentions are for real. Thoughts???LOL.

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 12:24am

my opinion is that it didn't sound like the exclusive talk..but that talk will probably be coming soon. i wouldn't be surprised if he brings it up again within the next week or two. He's into you and probably wants you all to himself. I'd say if you have other dates, keep going on them at this point. Sounds like you were both saying you are really liking each other and that it's headed in that direction but not quite there yet.


i'm jealous about the chemistry..lol..


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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 12:52am

"Now I feel like a dork. "

LOL!

I like the sounds of this one, and the idea of taking it slow. Like Loony said, it doesn't sound like you had the exclusive talk, but it does seem like it WILL be soon!

On another note: what health problems? You ok?

The boy

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 12:53am
Yeah, your story about MM was the story about the guy Andy that I was dating the last three weeks. NADA, no chemistry, NO NOTHING. He is the same age as the new guy and all, but it just wasn't their. I kept thinking about the differences I felt between both and how you were talking about your situation. If it's not their in the beginning, chances are, its not gonna be.
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 1:03am

I've been having my menstrual cycle for the last 4 months and it's not stopping. I thought it was the stress and of course I'm having a lot of the symptoms I had the first time I had uterus cancer, so I guess it's time for me to have a doctors visit. I called today but they haven't called back. I'll try again tomorrow.

Yes, the guy is truly different. Very grounded. Several different things that I notice in him that other current separated men don't have. He isn't wanting to sow his oats, he said he's done enough dating in the last year. He also said that the difference is that it's been a slow process of getting out of the marriage, even tho it was over many years ago. That he is neither bitter, nor resentful, angry or sad. He has come to terms long ago and finally took the leap he needed to be happy again.
And he is. He is just so not the ladies man or the wanna be bachelor or the bitter divorcee. He's just very grounded, positive and secure with his wants and needs.
It's very nice. I just have to be just as grounded, not analyze and enjoy each moment, instead of freaking out. Keeping things cool and smoothly running along will only keep things going smoothly, cool and relaxed. Freaking out, will not, nor has it ever done me any good.
I just really like him and although it's only been a week and three dates, it's been my first real interest again in over 3 months.

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 10:58am

Ugh Cat. My friend is going through similar bleeding and fibroids... they put in an IUD that stopped the bleeding after she had surgery to remove the fibroids, but that left her in constant pain. They took the IUD out last week and she ended up in the ER because the bleeding got really bad again.

I do like what you write about this one, and you know how hard I am on you :)

(((HUGS)))

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:01am
He sounds awesome!!
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:13am
I completely agree with you on this one. I say go for it...but nice and slow and enjoy
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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 11:39am

Ohhh...he sounds like a good guy!

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 1:23pm

Thoughts???


My thoughts are that I would have jumped the man right there in his own living room. LOL! Just kidding, sort of. hehe...


I agree with the consensus here. The talk was not the exclusive talk. He was feeling you out to see where he stands on your interest meter. Then he mirrored your thoughts because he feels the same. That is a good thing!! He does sound grounded and that is wonderful. I could practically feel the electric chemistry between you through your post! How exciting!


Good to take it slow and see how this unfolds. Don't over think or analyze (easy for me to say..the over analyzing queen) and just enjoy this!!!


BTW what does he look like? I need a visual to go along with the updates :o)

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Wed, 10-01-2008 - 4:26pm
He's geek handsome to me. You know how much I LOVE geeky sexy looking men. He looks smart but not gorgeous. He wears glasses, has dark brown hair and blue eyes. Is the same height as me, thin not skinny, with GREAT arms. I don't know, something about him is extremely handsome and sexy. Smoking sexy. Maybe it's because he's sooo confident. When I was with that young 27 year old, I wasn't attracted to him at all. I didn't even want to sleep with him, so it was easy not to. But whew, this guy is a true scorpion and I'm one, so two scorpions together can melt any walls. LOL.
I'll send a pic once we've dated a little longer. :)

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