Interesting proposal...

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Interesting proposal...
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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 4:35pm

We had a great time in Austin last week with one of my oldest and closest friends.

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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 10:23pm

Did you see the episode of the Office where that's what the couple (Jim & Pam) did? They had this crazy wedding where things really weren't going well. It was in Niagara Falls, so before the church, they snuck off & went on the Maid of the Mist boat by themselves & had the boat captain marry them. Then they could put up w/ the craziness and not be bothered.

I do think it would be nice to have a "moment" to yourselves, either before or after the ceremony (or both) to dwell on it in a meaningful way.

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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 10:43pm
I love the idea. We were just talking about something similar the other day. I think we are going to have a beach wedding next year when a lot of his family/friends can come attend but we also want something that is just us I think. We may opt for courthouse and then beach...sounds perfect to me.
I think it is pretty common for the groom to see the wedding taking shape and start wanting it to get back to the simpler idea of just choosing one another and vowing forever - weddings do take on a life of their own even when we try and keep it reasonable! So I can see how it would appeal to the guy to have a simple thing for just the two of you where it is more intimate and not about anyone else but you...because IMO when I guy asks you to marry him it is about you vowing your lives to one another and rarely about the wedding that some women ( not you necessarily!) have dreamt about forever and ever since they were teeny. There are few men that could pull off the planning that makes a wedding ceremony and reception beautiful - more men can do the actual commitment that inspires the ceremony and that is what counts of course so doing the small private ceremony will honor that sentiment for both of you.
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Fri, 06-18-2010 - 11:18pm

I completely understand the appeal of having a little oasis of just-the-two-of-you before all the crazy festivities of the wedding itself. I'm wondering, though, about the idea of actually getting married before the ceremony. The wedding is all about you two, of course, and not the guests, but it seems to me if you're inviting people to witness your marriage, then it would be more forthright, I guess, if they witnessed your marriage. Unless you worded the invitations in such a way that they knew they were watching a confirmation of your vows?

I LOVE the idea of a private little rendezvous on the beach or some other special place, just the two of you. What a special interlude, and what wonderful memories you'd have!

Thanks so much for sharing the happy details of your upcoming wedding. I really enjoy reading about them, and I know the two of you will be really happy together, no matter what you decide.

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Sat, 06-19-2010 - 5:25pm

I agree.


I think doing a very quiet intimate ceremony is wonderful if thats what you want. But if so, you'd have to word the invites as a "celebration of your vows" or whatever.


It all sounds perfect. SO happy for you!!!

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Mon, 06-21-2010 - 9:26am

We have talked about it a few times.