Interesting turn of events

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Interesting turn of events
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 12:51pm
Jack has decided FINALLY to see a doctor and get on some meds and be proactive about this cycle of depression when major life changes occur. I have been talking with him about things and I think he had finally realized that in circumstances of change - when adapting to a major change in his life - he has felt this "confusion" which is basically being overwelmed and then feeling depressed about his lack of clarity. This had nothing actually to do with me. I think that he has now realized that he does want to have a future with me (something he couldn't admit before) but this feeling he has will not let him grasp that reality fully/comfortably. So he is doing something about it! I know so many people that need couseling and meds (I myself have done both) and I don't look at him as weak for needing these things - I am just glad he is finally goin to be proactive on this.

I am sure this is personal stuff I probably shouldn't tell you but I am actually PROUD of him for taking this step.

The weirdest thing.... last night he called and Alyse asked to talk to him (mind you she will be 3 in September) and I said she could and gave her hte phone and she said "Jack, can you give me a baby brother? Can you give mom a baby boy for her birthday?" I almost DIED! I don't even know where she got that!!!!!!!!!! My birthday is in February so Jack made a joke that that was pretty impossible LOL! Well today when he called to tell me he had made his appointment and we talked about stress and how hard it is to adapt to a constantly changing world he said "I really want to get myself together and back in shape so I can give Alyse what she asked me for last night"

I didn't make the connection at first and when I did my ears burned. I told him to worry about himself right now and things will happen when they should. He said it seriously. That is the first SOLID indication he has really made to a future we have both speculated. I really hope that this works out for him. I know when I went on meds it helped immediately. I hope things work our for him because I know how he is feeling and how much better things can be.

In the meantime I suppose I will just keep working on work and trying to enjoy the rest of the summer! ANd not freak out about this coming Saturday too much.

Laura

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:38pm
That is really great news Laura!

I don’t see it as a weakness to have to take medication to help conquer depression or anxiety or other emotional and mental concerns. There is a plenty of scientific research to support that these things are not just “all in your head” but have much to do with the way your brain processes hormones and chemicals in your body. For those who truly need it, it can provide significant improvement in their every day lives.

The first step is always to recognize that you need help…and then seek it. He’s heading in that direction. That’s exciting! I hope everything works out for you.

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Registered: 12-19-2002
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 10:54am
Laura, congrats to Jack for taking the step to get help.
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 8:12pm
This is good news indeed. See how it goes on Saturday and let us know!