Interracial relationships

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Interracial relationships
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Tue, 11-30-2004 - 11:00pm
I'm not even sure what I want to ask - I guess I'm just curious to know what kinds of things people might go thru with an interracial relationship.
There is a guy at work who I have started seeing kind of casually. I am white and he is black. It's never bothered me to see an interracial couple, but I have never dated outside of my race. This guy from work is someone who I have known for years but have gotten to know him much better during the last few months. I knew I sort of had a crush on him and he talked to me quite often at work, but it's only been in the last two weeks that we've started seeing each other away from work. He also calls me almost every day. We've talked so much that I'm seeing so many things we have in common.
The other day, he asked me what my family would think of our "relationship" and the fact that he is black. I really think that my parents are open minded enough to accept it and I know that my 3 year old daughter just loves him! (As I said, he's someone I've known for years and she's met him at ball games or company functions.)
I think that I'm afraid of getting involved in a relationship that may be too complicated. I know that any relationship is a challange but it seems that this may have challanges that I'm not prepared for. More than anything else, I worry about putting my daughter in a situation that is at all uncomfortable for her. He is a great dad to his own child and is wonderful with my daughter too. He's just one of those guys that all the kids rush to!
I am absolutely prepared to take things slow and see where they go with him, but I'm curious to hear if anyone else has been in a similar situation and if you have any advice.

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 9:51am
I agree with Candi. Problems occur no matter what the differences are in the people involved. Family/friends will have problems if they see something they disagree on. Even if there are no differences in ethnicity, religion, whatever. You just have to hope for their support, but let them know that if they don't support you, that is their choice, but you are going to stick with the person you are with because he is who you want to be with.

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Registered: 05-25-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 3:50pm

These are sure wise words, Candi!!!!!

You are always so practical and wise, yet humorous at the same time. Total professor material!! (heehee)

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