You hit the nail on the head, and it was something I was trying to figure out, but not succeeding
"in front of the kids he is my boyfriend, I need a label for them"
I agree completely. This is what I needed from the last guy, this is what he didn't want to do. Quite frankly, I don't think you can be FWB and have kids involved. I mean, I have male friends, but I don't get myself dolled up for them, you know what I mean? So if he wants to be involved with the kids, too, it has to be more than that.
Plus, if you are developing feelings, going back to FWB is torture. Trust me...Summer guy is gone, gone, gone because of that. I just couldn't do it.
Maybe if you calm down a little (and I don't mean that in a bad way...I tend to overthink and overanalyze and make things worse than they need to be) and try to pull back a little just to see what happens (YOU are in the driver seat this way, I think), let him take the next step, then you will feel like you aren't pushing it.
Keeping the kids in mind, try to act a little more detached (maybe not the right word) about him so they don't get too excited about him.
It's funny that before kids we felt all this stuff too, but they add a whole new dimension to this silly game.
You hit the nail on the head, and it was something I was trying to figure out, but not succeeding
"in front of the kids he is my boyfriend, I need a label for them"
I agree completely. This is what I needed from the last guy, this is what he didn't want to do. Quite frankly, I don't think you can be FWB and have kids involved. I mean, I have male friends, but I don't get myself dolled up for them, you know what I mean? So if he wants to be involved with the kids, too, it has to be more than that.
Plus, if you are developing feelings, going back to FWB is torture. Trust me...Summer guy is gone, gone, gone because of that. I just couldn't do it.
Maybe if you calm down a little (and I don't mean that in a bad way...I tend to overthink and overanalyze and make things worse than they need to be) and try to pull back a little just to see what happens (YOU are in the driver seat this way, I think), let him take the next step, then you will feel like you aren't pushing it.
Keeping the kids in mind, try to act a little more detached (maybe not the right word) about him so they don't get too excited about him.
It's funny that before kids we felt all this stuff too, but they add a whole new dimension to this silly game.
Girl...you are smittin!! And that's cool!
I was very blunt with him about how you act and don't act when kids are involved.