Introducing the kids to the BF??? Help!!

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Registered: 07-15-2008
Introducing the kids to the BF??? Help!!
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Tue, 07-15-2008 - 8:02pm

the details....


We have been dating for 6 months and its wonderful!!!

JH

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Tue, 07-15-2008 - 8:43pm

How do your kids feel about you dating? Have you talked to them about him at all?

If they know about him, then maybe ask their input on how THEY would like to meet him- dinner out, picnic in the park, baseball game, pizza in the backyard, etc.

You know your kids best- so if you think they'll freak out, take it slow. If you think they'll be ok, then ask how they'd like to meet him and go from there.




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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 9:36am

Welcome - I like your user name.

It is good that you have kept this one a secret for 6 months - and that the kids are older. Have you been divorced for a while - meaning are they used to their new routine with parents who are divorced? Because that helps. It also helps to really feel that this relationship is going somewhere good.

I think the best meetings are more casual - going out somewhere the kids like and having the bf meet you there - as opposed to the house - and keep it platonic - no PDAs - see their reaction. I would tend to want to keep the meetings casual and infrequent until a more deep commitment has been made - but that is me.

I hope the others come on and provide their opinions - because we have all sorts of good stories and experiences here - and one of them is bound to stick for you.

Hope you stick around!

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Registered: 07-15-2008
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 9:54am

I have been divorced for 5 years so they are used to the routine.

JH

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 9:58am

Your 10 year old is a riot - how cute!!!

Sounds like you are on the right track - they are settled, you have been in this relationship for a bit - so all good - I like what I read.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:45pm

LOL!


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Registered: 09-11-2007
Wed, 07-16-2008 - 12:57pm

Hi Tiara, and welcome to the board!


Great job communicating with your kids!!!