Introducing my parents to my boyfriend

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Introducing my parents to my boyfriend
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Thu, 06-01-2006 - 11:01pm

Ok, so, I’m a little nervous. My boyfriend is meeting my parents this weekend. We’ve decided to do something quick and easy for the first meeting, so he’s just going to come and pick me up at home, and spend about an hour here with me and my parents. I should probably give a little background so you all know why I am so nervous. I have never introduced any guy to my mother and step dad. I was not allowed to date until I was 16, at that time I moved out of my mom and step dad’s house in San Antonio, and moved in with my father and his wife outside of Detroit. My father and my mother are two totally different people with two totally different sets of values and ideas. I had no problem introducing my father to anyone I was dating in high school because he pretty much let me do whatever I wanted. My mother and step dad never even met my son’s father. Mainly because of distance, when my son was born (in Michigan) my mom and step dad were moving from Texas to Virginia. So this is the first time I have ever introduced anyone to my mother and step dad. I have no clue what to expect out of them. It’s really just the fact that I trust and respect their opinions, and I really want them to like him, so I may be overreaction, and getting really nervous for nothing. I just had to tell SOMEONE though. Thanks for reading this.

Thanks!!

Kira

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Thu, 06-01-2006 - 11:53pm

Hi Kira,

You know, it's understandable to be nervous, since you haven't gone through this "meeting of the bf" before with them. Maybe just talk to them BEFORE you bring the bf over, and let them know that you're a little nervous and want to know what they are expecting out of the meeting.

Then talk to your bf and let him know that you're nervous.

That way everyone knows you're nervous, but you're not telling them all together, and so HOPEFULLY they will do their best to make YOU feel comfortable and at ease when the meeting occurs.

Good luck and keep us posted, it's good to see you around here again!







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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 6:44am
Kira, I can understand. But, breathe, girl! You'll (all) be fine. Think of the absolute worst thing that could happen. It won't. Think of the absolute best thing that could happen. It probably won't, either. But somewhere in the middle for the first meeting is absolutely fine.
I'm sure all of the adults will be on their best behavior, and your boyfriend is probably as nervous (or more) as you are. Meeting a girl's parents the first time must be nerve-wracking, and if the girl means anything, it should be, a little. But he'll be fine, too.
Have fun!!

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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 3:13pm

Thanks Alison and Moody!

I have told my parents that I'm nervous. My mom pretty much blows it off, like she knows that I am nervous, but she dosen't really understand why. My boyfriend also knows that i'm nervous, and he also knows that I am a worrier, so he totally understands. Plus the roles will be reversed in two weeks when I meet his parents. We've talked about meeting eachother's parents two or three times a week for the last month or so, so we've pretty much covered every worst-case, and best-case senario. Anyway, I will definitely let everyone know how Saturday goes, and I'll probably post another "OMG I'm freaking out" post about meeting his parents in about two weeks.

Thanks!

Kira

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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 8:05pm

Kira,

I so understand.
My mother is very judgemental and picky about people, so I am a nervous wreck about her meeting anyone. My dad is SO the opposite of that...like "whatever your mom thinks". LOL!!
I'm sure everything will be fine once you guys break the ice. I'm glad your mom doesn't seem worried about it at all. That is a very good thing.

And it can't be any worse than Meet the Parents!! ;)

take care and let us know how it goes,

--snow

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Sat, 06-03-2006 - 12:55am

It has to be hard anticipating when you have no idea what to expect.

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