Introduction

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Registered: 01-19-2006
Introduction
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Fri, 03-02-2007 - 1:50pm

I've been lurking on this board for a couple of weeks, and it looks like a good board for me so I thought I would introduce myself. I am 31 years old, and have a 10 year old daughter. I was married to her father for 6 years, then he decided to trade me in for a younger version (which last year he traded her in for an even younger version). We have now been divorced for 5 years. We are friendly enough to each other. He pays his child support, has open visitation (although rarely sees our daughter). Before he reenlisted in the army he saw her about once a month for a few hours, but now he is stationed in Hawaii (we live in Indiana), so he hasn't seen her since last July. So, it is pretty much just the 2 of us. Especially since the passing of my mother this last summer, who was a very big part of our lives.

I've dated very little since the divorce. I needed to get my own life back in order. And now that I have (finally) I am in a new relationship. Actually I dated him a couple of years ago for a few months, but the timing was just off. We've been seeing each other for almost 2 months now, and things are going great. We are taking things slow. The best part is, we are both on the same page about what we are looking for in a relationship right now. Which makes the relationship so unstressful and wonderful. He is also divorced and has 2 boys (ages 6 and 9)that he has every other weekend.

And that's about it :) Hope it wasn't too boring. I'm sure I'll have plenty of questions for you ladies in the future.

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/219b09

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: kristy1676
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 2:21pm
Welcome! Sorry to hear about your mom. But your story is good and you do have everything going in the right direction! Hope to hear more as time goes on and to see you post more too.
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Registered: 11-22-2006
In reply to: kristy1676
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 2:44pm
Hi Kristy and welcome to the board. I had to respond because it seems we have similar stories for a few reasons. My ex also left under similar circumstances and is actually now remarried. My son is 8 and we have been on our own for about five years and especially since the death of my mother which happened shortly after the separation with my boy's father. It makes for a lot to deal with to have such a profound loss followed by another or vice versa depending on how you weigh them. I know it took us a while to get our footing and now things are finally stable and I also have a great realtionship in my life. Glad you decided to say hello and best of luck to you...
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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: kristy1676
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 3:17pm

Welcome, so glad to see you here!

Feel free to chime in on our posts, and ask away! We're full of advice...

Moody


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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: kristy1676
Fri, 03-02-2007 - 7:21pm

Welcome Kristy! It's always good to hear good things :)
Hope to see more of your posts!

~ drgnflygrl

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Registered: 01-19-2006
In reply to: kristy1676
Mon, 03-05-2007 - 1:10pm

It seems we do have a lot in common. I noticed you had left another message on the board that mentioned you lost your mother to cervical cancer. My mom died from breast cancer. And it sounds like they both died way before they should have. It's good to know there are others out there that know what I am going through.

Thanks to everyone for welcoming me.

Kristy

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