Introduction & (u guess it) Dilemna
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Introduction & (u guess it) Dilemna
| Mon, 04-11-2005 - 1:21am |
Hello from Hawaii. I am a single mother (3 year old son) who never thought dating could be this hard. I thought it would be as easy as finding a babysitter for that night. I am coming out of a 2 year relationship which was after a prior 2 year relationship. My theory is that if I haven't found Mr. Right it's because I haven't kissed enough frogs. But boy, finding a frog is work in itself. Well, I finally met someone through an online dating service (i search only within the small island i live on) who i've actually met before. So I'm really excited and determined to be out there and dating. I'm not wanting to get into a serious relationship yet because I have my routine and other goals that I want to pursue before I settle down (again). I'm also determined to abstain until I get married. But the real dilemna is that it's hard to squeeze in a dating life. My son is still confused as to why my most current ex-bf (who isn't his father) isn't my boyfriend anymore. While he seems content to have mommy all to himself, he still struggles, i think, with the seperation. So now I am not going to have him meet any of my dates since I don't plan to keep them around so much (and that is if I even get them but ...). I guess I also wanna comiserate with any of you gals who don't have as much childcare as needed to have a social life. Anyway, hope to get to know ya'll.

My rules for dating are no one meets my daughter unless it is a serious relationship. That means no "sleep overs" and no "this is my friend intros".
Your son is trying to be the "man of the house" even at three. He feels the need to protect you. He is confused and hurt and he also notices that you are hurt. No matter how hard you try to hide it, he can see it. I would talk with your son about the most recent bf and explain in a three year old language how you feel. Maybe you can get some insight to what is bothering him.
As for getting out. I joined Parents without Partners. They are international. Search them on the web and find a chapter near you. They have events with kids and just adult events too. I also find that I can "borrow" a member's teen as a babysitter.
Hello and welcome!
It is hard to wedge dating into an already busy life. With younger children especially. But I think that's good, it helps you not get obsessed with it either....and it means you HAVE a life.
So enjoy!