issue-- and a long one...sorry

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issue-- and a long one...sorry
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:25pm

First off – other than the issue I’m about to ask for help with – I had a really nice weekend.

JH

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:36pm

Oh boy!

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:46pm

I feel awful for the guy she is living with.

JH

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 1:52pm
Funny how all those "cute" things that you liked in the beginning are annoying in real life!
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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:01pm

You bring up a perpetual question on what is a "friend."

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:46pm
I have been very honest with her about J...how I think she's being too needy with J and expecting him to be someone he's not.

JH

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 2:48pm

Shoot- that is a tough spot to be in. I would feel yucky inside being supportive to her destructive behaviour. And I would feel even yuckier still by remaining "true" to EW while she is doing that to J. If I was you, I think I would be honest and tell her that although you understand her, you encourage her to stop lying to J and the he deserves to know. She sknow how it fells to be cheated on. How does she validate doing this in her mind? How does it make her OK to do it? I would have to be honest with her if it was my friend, and tell her I would support her in being honest with J.


As for your weekend time..I had to LOL at the thought of SS wearing that device during your nakie time. A calorie counter...that is too funny!!! So did you TRY to make his heart race?? LOL!

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 3:03pm

I don't believe in telling people what they should or should not do for they usually don't listen anyway.

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 3:16pm

Doesn't sound like a friend to me.


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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 3:32pm

no - its not shock value with her...its a total attention thing and she feels like she's not getting the attention from J that she needs...she has been complaining about that for a while.

JH

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Mon, 09-29-2008 - 3:46pm

I just have to tell her that I hate what she's doing and that I won't be a part of it.

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