It all fell apart last night
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It all fell apart last night
| Tue, 12-30-2008 - 8:23am |
EMT came to visit last night at work. Things were slow so we were watching tv. I was trying to have a conversation with EMT but I got no response at all because he was watching deal or no deal or something equally as stupid. Then I got frustrated and stood up and said, 'this isnt going to work'. We got into a deep conversation about why not. He said he loved me and wanted to make it work. I agreed but I know deep down. I've been there before. The guy you have now is the guy youre going to have years later. They dont change. Especially at 48 years old.
I went home sad, not mad. He's a great guy. I love him but there are many things going wrong.
Laurie :-(

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I'm sorry. Those feelings are hard especially when you love someone. But some differences are too difficult to overcome and when you are having your needs met that is hard. I do think sitting down and talking about what you want and need is important. I have no idea if you all can come to an understanding or not but I would at least give him the opportunity to meet you half way. Maybe there are things you can do to meet him in the middle too to make a better relationship for you both.
Hang in there.
Priscilla
Wow, Laurie, I'm sorry to hear about this.
Thanks. I think that is a good idea. I have to figure out if its deal breakers or something I can put up with. Last night I drove home wondering if I'm too picky and no man will ever be good enough.
Laurie
Laurie;
My guess is that the inattentiveness is getting to you - the addiction to the crackberry, the watching a tv show vs. talking with you...
Hugs, Laurie!
From your previous post about not wanting to be affectionate/groped and now feeling irritated by his non response I can see that things have been building and you are generally unhappy/irritated with EMT. I think that happens...when you begin to feel unsatisfied wheen there are issues under the surface then smaller things seems really big and irritating, right?
Am I right in remembering that EMT is the one that had problem with spending time with the ex and ex gfs? I would think that that issue was enough to out a wedge in between you in the first place, and now it is the smaller things that keep piling up. I wonder of you fee unheard in the relationship. Thats a big thing for me. Being heard and validated.
When it's not right it's not right.. and maybe you can take a few days apart to sort things out? If your time away clears your mind and you want to end things then at least you have clarity?
I was trying to have a conversation with him and was getting no response at all. It was like I was talking to myself. He was so absorbed in deal or no deal that I might as well not even have been there. Argh.
Laurie
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