it hurts

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Registered: 03-25-2002
it hurts
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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 11:51pm

I'm not going to lie... it hurts...


At 8:00 pm i called him to make sure plans had not changed.. he said we are all set to meet tonight.


But what happened???? I called at 11 pm when i was about to leave work.. his friend answered the phone and said he had passed out.. that he had a hard day at work and drank too many margaritas...


I said, are you sure he doesn't want me to wake him up... last time we had a miscommunication and i don't want another one... His friend said, "trust me he's out..." I said, "can i at least just get my camera? i really want it back..." His friend said let me look for it and i'll call you back. I said, okay call back because i don't want to wait all night.


His friend called back and said i can't find it.. i'll tell TG to call you tomorrow to give you back your camera... I said okay.


So i'm back at work.. no need to leave now.. i might as well just stay here and keep working...


It hurts. I'm mad.. BUT i'm not driving over to his house... yay for me... I could REALLY use a friend right now....!!!!!


So now, i think he's an alcoholic... i'm upset because he knew we were suppose to talk tonight but instead i think he purposely got drunk so he would have an excuse not to talk to me... OR he really did work hard (well, i know he did... and i know he got little sleep last night....) BUT at 8 pm, it was like yes yes let's talk tonight...


I guess he doesn't care...


I'll be alright!!!! I know this.. but it hurts tonight. My new plan is to assume we are broken up... not call him or text him.. and just sit back and wait for my camera.... he knows i want it back so i don't see the point in hounding him over it..


But sure he might call me tomorrow... I still may feel the need to talk to him ... ya know... to have that closure... but who am i kidding.. when is a breakup ever "no hard feelings...."


okay change of plans i did send a text.... i wanted to tell him a piece of my mind... i said "i don't hate you.. unless that's what you want.. i'm hurt... at this point i'm assuming we are broken up... no strings.. but i do need my camera back."


How was that????


Loonybunny


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Registered: 04-14-2008
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:00am

I'm so sorry things did not go the way you wanted.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:04am
That sucks... text was to the point.
Hugs,
Mark
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Registered: 11-03-2003
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:10am

Ooouuuuch!

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:13am

well i'm trying not to go "freakazoid"....


was i just the jerk who broke up with him over a text message though..... ??? oops... but then again, i don't want to be waiting forever or hanging on a string.... so i was just being honest...


it's like i'm in shock and i can't move... i'm even more vulnerable tonight than the other night... BUT i'm not on the phone calling

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 12:21am

i REALLy need the hug.. thanks.


but i've been hurt worse and lived... i just hope the pain goes away soon...


Loonybunny

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Registered: 04-14-2007
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:06am

I'm very, very, very sorry but sadly, not surprised.

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Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:46am

your posts are not helpful.. and this is suppose to be a support board....


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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 7:16am

Well, actually, there just might be a silver lining here, Loony. Not necessarily one you want to hear - but maybe that is the reason for his instability? Maybe he was drinking the night he went to the neighbors. Or the time he sent that crazy text messages about you being with someone else and now this. I bet he couldn't handle the stress of seeing you and talking to you so he started drinking thinking that would help - and pretty soon he ended up tanked out of his mind.

To me, of course as you know how I am such a teetotaller (well not really that bad but I only like 1 or 2 glasses of wine a whole night) and how I hate the idea of being with a drinker, I would say NO MORE to that and be done with it. I would get the camera, tell him this doesn't work for me and never look back.

Whatever you decide to do, please don't take this personally - it appears that while he was attracted to you and seemed to have good intentions in the beginning - he is no where near capable of holding up his half of the bargain based on his actions thus far.

I know it hurts. Sorry for you for that - there is no way around it. But they always say it is better to love and lose than to never love at all. So I am sure for now you can concentrate on the things in your life that are important, dust yourself off - and have a smile for your next karaoke song and the next one. Hopefully you will learn to make them pursue you more before just having sex - make them show you with their actions that they are the one - because I think sex makes you get more attached more easily and you are worth way more than that. Make them want you with their heart!

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Registered: 12-06-1998
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 7:44am
{{{{{hugs}}}}} Loony. The guy is a jerk.
Try & focus on the good things in your life tomorrow.

 



Tracy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 8:02am
Oh dear..........that really bites.
 

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