it hurts

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it hurts
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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 11:51pm

I'm not going to lie... it hurts...


At 8:00 pm i called him to make sure plans had not changed.. he said we are all set to meet tonight.


But what happened???? I called at 11 pm when i was about to leave work.. his friend answered the phone and said he had passed out.. that he had a hard day at work and drank too many margaritas...


I said, are you sure he doesn't want me to wake him up... last time we had a miscommunication and i don't want another one... His friend said, "trust me he's out..." I said, "can i at least just get my camera? i really want it back..." His friend said let me look for it and i'll call you back. I said, okay call back because i don't want to wait all night.


His friend called back and said i can't find it.. i'll tell TG to call you tomorrow to give you back your camera... I said okay.


So i'm back at work.. no need to leave now.. i might as well just stay here and keep working...


It hurts. I'm mad.. BUT i'm not driving over to his house... yay for me... I could REALLY use a friend right now....!!!!!


So now, i think he's an alcoholic... i'm upset because he knew we were suppose to talk tonight but instead i think he purposely got drunk so he would have an excuse not to talk to me... OR he really did work hard (well, i know he did... and i know he got little sleep last night....) BUT at 8 pm, it was like yes yes let's talk tonight...


I guess he doesn't care...


I'll be alright!!!! I know this.. but it hurts tonight. My new plan is to assume we are broken up... not call him or text him.. and just sit back and wait for my camera.... he knows i want it back so i don't see the point in hounding him over it..


But sure he might call me tomorrow... I still may feel the need to talk to him ... ya know... to have that closure... but who am i kidding.. when is a breakup ever "no hard feelings...."


okay change of plans i did send a text.... i wanted to tell him a piece of my mind... i said "i don't hate you.. unless that's what you want.. i'm hurt... at this point i'm assuming we are broken up... no strings.. but i do need my camera back."


How was that????


Loonybunny


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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 2:43pm

Of course it hurts- you're disappointed!


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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 2:57pm

>>It's frustrating to not find someone... for over a year, i wasn't even seriously looking... i was trying to enjoy the moments in dating....

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:46pm

>>And I do find it does help to have supportive, caring friends who holds my heart with tenderness and compassion.

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:57pm

Oh loony, you deserve so much better. I can see why you want closure. Closure is important. It appears he cares more about himself and alcohol than he does you and it hurts me to write that. If I were you I would not give this man a 3rd chance. He blew it too many times.


hugs.


Laurie

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 7:07pm

Do you ladies honestly think she wanted good advice or to be pointed out what went wrong?! Good God, she knows what went wrong. Nothing like kicking her while she's down.


Loony, you did what you thought was right based on your knowledge of the situation at the time. You could not see into the future before making your decisions. Dont beat yourself up for what you did or for breaking up on a text message. God knows, you gave him every opportunity to meet in person and HE shot it down. So as far as I'm concerned he doesnt even deserve a text breakup.


Laurie

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 7:31pm

I can't speak for everyone, but I know I wanted to mention what went wrong only because LB was talking like she was wanting to take him back if he would've wanted it. I just don't think he's worth it, after all that he's done... he's hurt her enough.


~shrimpy, only wanting everyone to find Peace and avoid the jerks

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:18pm

Hey shrimps,


despite the fact that we disagree on many things.. i appreciate what you have to say.. you are one of those where i can tell you speak from the heart and not out of judgement....


thanks, shrimps.


Loonybunny

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:40pm
Have you heard from him?



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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:43pm

I'm glad you understand, LB... I know I might be one of the ones here who can be "rough" in my opinions sometimes! If I see one of us about to step off the curb in front of a bus, I won't just gently pull you back- but I might tackle you hard enough to get you clear to the other side! lol ;-)


But yeah- I do want to see ALL of us here succeed in relationships. Whether it be with a man, or a family member, or a girlfriend... or even

~shrimpy

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In reply to: loonybunny
Tue, 05-13-2008 - 10:32pm

Too bad we don't all live closer- we could storm the place and get your camera back for you!


That is too funny!!!


and to answer alison's question.. no i haven't heard from him today...


I'm feeling a lot better tonight after my good cry that i got from Mark's post.. and i just realized tonight how much love you all have for me... and i feel less alone.


And msnsavannah and i talked on the phone.. she reminded me about all the new possibilities i still have left in this new city...


Loonybunny