is it just me??

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is it just me??
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Thu, 01-12-2006 - 11:29am
I've been going out with my ex, before FOB, and at first it was like friends with benefits, well to make a long story short we realize that we both still have really strong feelings for eachother....but he doesn't think he can accept me with my son because it was right after we broke up and he always thought, as I did too, that eventually we'd get back together, well he's really hurt.......
we kinda' left that argument, and it seems like he's really been trying, because i know we do care about eachother a lot, he'll try asking about my son, and the other day he wanted to get him a pet, i only see him when my son's with his dad, i don't ever leave my son to go out with him, and that's my question, is it alright to leave your son with someone to go out??? i just feel so guilty because i have never done that, I feel like i leave my son enough to go to work and school, and when he's with his dad, but lately i've been wanting to see more of my ex so i had thought that if i left my son with my cousin, me and him can go have lunch, but i'm still debating...my son's 2 yrs. old....this would be the first time i'd do that...what do you guys think??? I feel like i'm being selfish and i shouldn't do that.

 

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 9:46pm

I don't see any harm in leaving your son with a nice sitter to go out on a date for lunch!! That would be great for you. :-)

As long as your son is well cared for and you have good quality time with him then a little time away to pursue your adult life is a good thing.

Keep us posted!!

Just make sure that you don't let your feelings for your ex override your ability to get what you want and need from him - in other words - if you really don't think he will accept your son that is not going to change - and what made him your ex could take you apart again. If he is making an effort that is good - make sure you talk about all of this.

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Thu, 01-12-2006 - 11:50pm

Yes it is okay!

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Fri, 01-13-2006 - 12:02am

Honey,


There's nothing wrong with you getting out.


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Registered: 05-12-2005
Sat, 01-14-2006 - 11:33pm
I personally wouldn't do it. What about having some one come over after your son's bedtime and then going out?