Is it a lost cause?

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Is it a lost cause?
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 7:19am

I closed out someone on eharmony a month go who was a great guy and now he is in one of my meetup groups on meetups.com.

April

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Registered: 11-03-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 9:29am

How I would handle it?

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 11:19am

i agree with soonee.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 2:51pm

I agree with Soonee... just bump into him and meet him at the meetup if it happens. And act like it's the first-ever contact and don't bring up eHarmony! If he does, then you could explain being busy- but otherwise, you don't owe him any explanation. Just start fresh at the meetup if it happens! I wouldn't even try to seek him out unless you are totally curious or think that there's a chance. There could be someone ELSE at the meet-ups that fit you better! You never know- so if you see him there, you see him. If you meet, you meet. But otherwise...

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 3:58pm

Oh wow April- I just now read about CountryDude and his computer chatting- on YOUR computer!!! I'd next him, too. Talk about nerve!!!

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 6:22pm

Thanks Shrimpy (and soonee and mom_uk2socal)

April

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 6:48pm

I couldn't agree more - Soonee typed it just as I would. I would pretend it never happened and act like you have no idea who he is - but strike up conversation as though you just met him and want to learn more. After all - we go through so many matches, and are busy, who can ever keep them straight!