IS IT ME, or does this board seem a bit
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| Fri, 02-11-2005 - 6:35pm |
quiet lately! We used to have so much to write about and so much stuff to talk about. It just seems that in the last months it's been unusually quiet. What's up? Any ideas to perk this board up again? What happened to Wednesday Woes or otherwise? We had some sizzling topics. We should try to sizzle that up again. Try to post more about sexy topics or taboos, as well as what's going on with our kids, our lives outside of dating and otherwise. AS WELL AS ALL OUR DATING EXPERIENCES. I'd like to see this happen more again. Not to discourage the newbies, but we used to post so MUCH in one day that I hardly see much of a change now. Let's brainstorm and think of daily stuff we could just post. Like Monday Minutes (from the weekend), Tuesday Tantrums/Tempers/Temptations, Wednesday Woes, Thursday Thrills, Friday Five. Then something for us Weekend lurkers; sexy saturday and sinnful sundays (lol). I hardly hear how anyone is doing outside of the dating. How are you handling your schedules, your job, your finances. The everyday worries of singlehood or the everyday joys of it and that of motherhood. The feelings aside from the dating. Can we boost this all up a bit. We had a very emotional post back in December and it seems alot has changed since then. I would like to see it change again. We all love each other, all support each other and I just get this feeling that alot of gut feeling (except for a few) is no longer being posted, but everything is being posted very carefully. I don't want to step on anyone's toe's, but does ANYONE get this feeling, or is it just me? Give me your update, brainstorm with me, let's get this board rollin again!
Huggin you all!
- Catherine

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from the bottom of my heart
each day it does get easier
and it will one day be a faded memory
I loved him,
probably still do
but this is inexcusable
you can forgive, not forget
I went out friday nite
I had a great time
I used to do that before we met
had a couple of drinks, (:)
I danced. (;)
A friend drove me home (:) no cab fare works for me
they weren't drinking (;)
Yesterday spent time with my ds (:)
He knows I am a little down
but he knows I am okay. I don't want him to worry.
He is happy, he didn't like him.
My ds thought he was too old for me. lol (:)
Went to the store, got milk, pop and treats
for us, lots of CHOCOLATE
MY SECRET VICE, MY COMFORT FOOD
again thanks
I am not going to call him
Moving on
Being single
is not
the end of the world
It is the loneliness
You become use to having someone
to share with, another adult
Although I don't consider HIM
to be much of one
It is really hard dealing
with the way he did it
but I am going to hold my head up high
and carry on
thanks west
you will never know how much
I love your attitude
the bbq sounds like a blast
and like west said you made me laugh
amongst my tears
I went out friday nite
and had a blast
I hung out with six other people
guys and gals
sat for a bit with a couple
of guys in the band while my friends
played a game of pool
one of my best friends,
a guy asked me to dance
I asked him to dance
All of us had a great time
met new people
my guy friend offered to drive me home
no strings attached
he asked for my phone number
it is the same
he already had it
he is going to call me
hang out together
it was so cool
I really haven't done this since
I met the ex b/f
Things change
we really never went anywhere or did anything
other than a weekly lay
no romance
want to be wined and dined
lol (;)
I would like to burn his pictures
but so far am resisting the temptation
I could throw them off the bridge
after tearing them into a million, zillion pieces he he he
hopefully while he is driving by
but I want to thank you
it is hard and I have cried tears on my pillow
but frankly he is not worth it
I was
He lost the best he will every have
There is life out there
someday I will find
what I am looking for
but I will survive! (;)
thanks
I am still laughing and smiling
today the sun is shining
and I have today off work
I am ging to enjoy it
and embrace it
thanks for cheering me up
and being supportive if I want to wallow
in self-pity
I love you for that
It's my party
I told my friends friday nite
was my own personal pity party
they made sure I was okay
and didn't go home with *JUST* anybody
dam*
just kidding
good friends
they know I was hurting
Cat, we had an active week last week, LOTS of posts. I just think things go in cycles. I was very busy last week and didn't have much time to post.
Things have been different for awhile now, maybe because some of our married/taken board members are hesitant to post their everyday stuff now. Sad, but I think that may be true.
I am not that wild about everything being "sizzling, sinful, tempting, taboo or sexy" myself. Don't get me wrong, You know I like sex and sometimes we post about it. Sometimes it just comes up as part of the conversation. But I want to be balanced and I
Cat, I've got to tell you that while I do understand your frustration in a way, I also know how impossible it is to "kick start" a board. Our board anyway. We've all (Tara, Maggie, Candi and myself) at different times, as CL's tried to do so. If stuff goes over, it's because it's in a good place. But sometimes you try something and it just falls flat. It's frustrating, but this board carries itself. No amount of putting things into place seems to help. we're either "clicking" here, or we aren't.
I suspect it's a LOT to do with the fact that we're all busy working mom's here. If we go through a spell where life is busy/demanding/overwhelming, there isn't much to give the board.
Participation on things like "Wed Woes" and some of the other things we did was soooooo slim at times, that it just got let go. I can talk to Candi and see what we can come up with. And you can always ALWAYS feel free to post fun polls/quizes and the like.
Candi, I really agree with your last paragraph. There are boards on ivillage dedicated solely to sex and all discussions related. I think when it comes up naturally here, in the course of conversation, it's fun and interesting. Like with your real life girlfriends. When you're chatting and it comes up, you go with it. But you NEVER EVER get together with a friend saying "Tonight's topic of discussion is going to be sex and your dating life"
I prefer to think of us as a group of girlfriends. I'd hate to "direct" the conversation to sizzling topics on purpose. That would, to me, kill the spontaniety and make it rather mundane.
>>>Things have been different for awhile now, maybe because some of our married/taken board members are hesitant to post their everyday stuff now. Sad, but I think that may be true.<<<
If anyone does feel like this, I'd like to remind them that the discussion on this topic OVERWHELMINGLY proved that everyone is welcome to post here about any topic, and that if anyone left or posted less, it would be a huge disappointment for the group as a whole.
If anyone feels hestitant to post something (just not sure if it's appropriate for this board), they are free to put it in the off-topic folder. I think we've also shown that it doesn't matter where the post goes, it will get the same amount of attention no matter where it is. And if someone feels that if they have to post in the OT folder, they might as well not post at all, then that is just being petty (and it's not like you can't post in the first folder anyway, there are no Post Police). I post as much in the OT folder as I do in the coffeehouse, and I don't think an OT post is any less important. I hope most agree with me on that.
Cat, I never said you were "sex obsessed" Nothing even close to that.
And my point still stands. This board carries itself. Somtimes it lags, and sometimes it doesn't. Any "cl" attempts to "stir things up a bit" have usually failed, simply because that is where the ladies on this board were at the time. And as I said, feel FREE to post something new any time. Any time.
Sorry you thought it was hurtful to disagree. Everyone does from time to time Catherine. Not sure why you are so upset.
You're interpreting my post in a much bigger way than it was intended.
I was stating my opinion, just as you were yours. I never said you were sex obsessed. I just stated where my head is at right now. For me it is all about staying sane, the ups and downs emotionally were keeping me from achieving what I want in life. So that's a goal for me. It doesn't mean where you are is better or worse.
The things I post about are things I want opinions on. Sure, there are lots of things in my life that I don't need input on...but it doesn't mean I'm closed.
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