It still hurts to see the bully...

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Registered: 03-11-2004
It still hurts to see the bully...
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Tue, 04-22-2008 - 11:58am

So I know Im supposed to remember how much i cant stand CP and beleive me i do. And i hate him truly for all of the crap hes put me through and continues to on a regular basis. Today is his day with DD and until 8 pm last night i was standing firm she was not going and then he called. I let it go to voicemail and checked and he was checking in to make sure we were still on for him to see her today and i didnt need to call back unless plans had changed and then he said thanks he was really excited about seeing her. So I got up at my normal 5 am and got ready for work. Got DD up and ready as always. Called him at 6:45 knowing full well he would not be up yet (tehehehehe) and he answered and was...polite. I said i just wanted to make sure you hadnt changed your mind , i didnt want to drive all the way up and have you say no. He assured me was not the case and again couldnt wait to see her. So i asked her when i got off the phone if she wanted to see daddy today and she absolutely squeeled with delight. So i dropped her off this morning and again he was polite to me and she was beyond excited when she saw him. He even handed me $20 for gas and i about fell over since he is ohhhhhh 8 weeks behind in CS. He showed me a paper from the IRS that said they deducted a small amount of his return for some back cs and told me i should get a check anyday (still holding my breath on that one). He smokes now from being with the wh*** and i told him he really needs to quit and then shut my mouth remembering its none of my concern as long as he doesnt smoke around DD. So what im getting at is it still hurts soooo much. I loved this man with every ounce of my being and im absolutely crushed. Thought I was starting to heal but it still stings like hell and no amount of smothering by the prince is going to make it stop. Ugghhhh I need

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Wed, 04-23-2008 - 10:30pm
Mike, how old are your kiddos? Im sorry it was so hard for you - but glad you perservered.

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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:33am

The only way DYFS could backfire against you is if you have done something they need to take notice of.


Not even close. I spoke with the girls at her daycare yesterday and they are going to try to document all of the days that I had to pick her up because she came home sick after spending the day with him. She doesnt sleep when shes there and she ALWAYS comes home with bad diaper rash from lack of changing or diet. Now that shes getting older she can tell me what she has eaten or drank...this week she told me she had candy and orange juice (both of which she doesnt get because sugar is a no no in our house. She eats plenty of fruit and healthy snacks and OJ is no good for her because her system cant handle the acid) Hes just a loser through and through. I check my childsupport status everyday and hes up to something now. He actually made a payment so now hes only 7 weeks behind. Im thinking he went to court yesterday which is only going to be in my favor because i plan on fighting unitl the bitter bitter end. Hes to dangerous for DD to be around and i dont know what shes being exposed to anymore.


He also represents himself and from what i understand judges really cant stand it. My lawyer is aggresive ...but hes been letting CP give himself enough rope, im just hoping its enough to do the job.


Youre right about the therapist...they are few and far between in the area and costly so im sucking it up and swallow it down everynight with a chocolate chip cookie. Im not overly concerned with gaining weight from the occassional cookie since my anxiety burns it off and sleep deprivation does wonders for your metabolism...KIDDING Id love to say im happy about the added weight loss but its in all the wrong places...anyway tmi for a guy but thanks again mike

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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 10:38am
You know the marriage thing got me for about 15 minutes then i realized if its true at all he cant afford to mary her unless her parents are one of the wealthy russian familys and can afford all of the legalities that go along with staying past your student work visa in order to extend it for an engagement visa to get married within 3 months and then apply for the greencard...what it boils down to is CP is WAY TO CHEAP to carry any of those expenses so it was just him being malicious YET again...and if they do then better her than me because there is way to much BS that goes along with that piece of scum. Its just funny because last week when he was calling to say he missed me and would i ever consider coming back and how she was always so
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Thu, 04-24-2008 - 12:36pm
DS16, DD will be 15 on Sunday, DS11. They were three years younger when we separated but things had been bad for 2 years before that. I guess the oldest was 10 when things really started to fall apart.

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