is it worth the cost of a sitter?
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is it worth the cost of a sitter?
| Mon, 10-13-2008 - 3:16pm |
I know.. an age old question for single moms. Is the outing \ occasion \ date worth the cost of a sitter?
I found several weekend sitters in my area. Several willing to come to my home so that i can have a night out and not worry about packing the children in the car late at night. BUT the cost..
So.. here's the outing... Halloween carnival. I've been there only once years ago

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There may be great single dads out there who wont have any problem with you having kids.
dance has some wise advice here - cept i would like to say one small change - there WILL (not may) be some great single dads out there who won't have any problems with you having kids.
mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16
Oh definitely go!! I hear ya on the whole "is it worth the cost or not?" thing. It was the defining factor of not meeting up with lots of guys fort hat first coffee because I really didn't feel it would go beyond that. And they just never understood the whole "I can't pick up and just go meet you, I have to plan for these things" grrrr it is the life of a single mom (well those who don't have family able to watch the kids for free)
But I do say GO the carnival sounds like SO much fun and just keep the positive thoughts, the ones you believe most, in the front of your mind. Be confident that MM wants YOU and is interested in YOU. I wish I had a magic mallet to knock you one upside the head to help clear the doubts away as I can tell they're torturing you going back and forth from feeling confident to not so much. I think the carnival is worth the sitter cost. What do you pay for them to come to your house? I've only ever used sitters that come to my house and I pay $8 an hour if they're already in bed when I leave or $10 an hour if I'm leaving while they're still awake. Just curious what the going rate is. But I guess my having 3 and you having 5 makes a difference. I know my friend only pays $5 an hour but for 1 kid. Anyway, sorry to hijack. I SAY GO TO THE CARNIVAL!!! I love Halloween and carnivals! OH it will be fun for you!
MM update: got an email from his yesterday that i answered. but haven't heard from him at all today nor have i tried contacting him. I feel like i need cave time, myself. So while it feels odd that the usual "goodmorning" and "goodnights" have stopped (two days)... i'm not going to assume the worst. Like i said, i'm needing some cave time myself...
As for this weekend, I'm going. I have many friend who
An 8 hour meetup? Or are you working that night as well?
I think it's best to just put MM back in the friend category and move on. He's made it clear that he would have no long term interest in you, and why waste your time with that?
Go and have fun with your friends- and maybe you'll meet another cutie while standing in line :)
yes, a possible 8-hr meetup. there may be a lot of standing in line while we wait to go on the rides. So we're going early and who knows how late it will be.. but it will be mucho fun...
i think i'm coming out of my emotional funk.. (i'm sure it was mostly pms.. i seem to have a track record for going bonkers at that time of the month. Do you think if i told MM it was PMS, that would get me off the crazy train hook or would i look more insane...lol... oh well, i'm going to stop worrying about what he thinks).
although i don't think he made it clear... he said he's concerned not opposed. almost sounded as if that was the only thing holding him back.. so i'll let him cave on that issue, as i do as well... as my emotions start to settle, i'm sure my good judgement will take over again.
but yes, putting
"he said he's concerned not opposed."
I think he's planting the seed in your head so he can say later, "well, I said that I was concerned about dating a single mom..." when he ends it.
Friend zone. Good idea.
Be open to everyone when you go to the fair and have fun, you deserve a fun day after all this loonyness :)
I think he's planting the seed in your head so he can say later, "well, I said that I was concerned about dating a single mom..."
Yep. It's the"disclaimer". Rlch said it a long time ago and I find it to be true. Men will tell you upfront about an issue, and if you chose to accept that issue, then their off the hook because they already disclosed it and you accepted it. As she said, when someone tells you who they are, believe them.
loony,
somehow I missed your original post about MM being "concerned" about your having kids, but I gotta say that that would be a deal breaker for me and I think you're wise to keep him in friend zone.
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