It's all figured out...

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Registered: 09-28-2008
It's all figured out...
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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 6:24pm

...and I feel like a really bad girlfriend.

So I went over to Duck fan's house last night for our date. We had some really amazing nakie time. Then as we were laying in bed cuddling he says, "I want to talk about last weekend. I can understand you were dissapointed last Saturday but I've cancelled before and you were never that upset. What's going on?" I told him it was Friday that upset me because he didn't even call to let me know I could not wait up. He said, "Except I texted and told you I wasn't getting out of there as quick as I thought." So I tell him I got no such text. He gives me his phone and in the outbox is a text to me "Baby I'm not gonna make it. I'll call you tomorrow. Sweet dreams." marked that night at 9:42 P.M. I didn't get the text but he didn't know that and I was so mean to him and angry. He reminded me that we need to communicate and said it hurt when I said I didn't feel like he wanted me anymore because he can't imagine not wanting me. By this time he had turned away from me and that didn't feel good at all. I told him the reason I didn't talk to him is that we are still new and I didn't want him to think my problem was with his time with the guys because it wasn't and I really enjoyed my time with Zara on Saturday even though I wanted to be with him. My ex always attacked me when I had a problem with something he was doing so I bottled it up. Duck Fan does the same thing (or so he says). After we talked he pulled me close to him and said, "You should know by now how much I care about you." So we kissed and made up a lot. Kinda like high school but way hotter. Neither of us wanted to go to work this morning. Staying in bed with him would have been awesome because I never felt more connected to him than I did this morning. I just wish I was back there with him right now.

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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 10:16pm
Don't you hate it when text messages go missing!!! And of course that is never a conclusion we jump to ......
I'm glad it worked out ok in the end :o)
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Tracy

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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 10:27pm

Awwww! That text was SO sweet! Im sorry about the misunderstanding. You know whats interesting .... what if he DIDNT save that text? How many of us would beleive he really DID text you?

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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 10:50pm
Yes I do especially because it made me doubt and question someone who has been so good to me. The other time he canceled on me he was sick as death. I decided long ago he was going to let me down and I need to realize maybe he isn't going to be like everyone else. Maybe that's why I am with him.
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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 10:58pm
I know and I was laying right there next to him and I didn't believe him. He's never lied to me so why should I think he'd start now? He doesn't text really anyone but me and luckily there were less than 50 texts from him between then and now. In fact he believes in complete honesty and trust. I am supposed to trust him the way he trusts me. I need to remember that.
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Sat, 10-25-2008 - 11:52pm
i just realized why i love this pic of your girls sooooooo much and probably why you do too - that each one of them is smiling so much. i know how hard it is to get all kids to smile at the same time - or at least thats how it was for me.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 10:15am
I have had more miscommunications via text than I care to think about. I have learned that if something is really important (changing plans last minute, for example), it's better to actually make a call. And I hate the phone, but better to be safe than sorry.
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Registered: 09-24-2008
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 11:21am
I agree -- I think texts are way too casual and inappropriate.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 11:45am
Aw thanks. Yeah I think that may be one of the only ones I have where they are all smiling so big and genuine. I remember when I was 17 my mom got a portrait done of us and only one had all 6 of us smiling, not making a face, etc.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 11:47am
Yeah I feel the same. I think maybe he was like secretly texting me so his friends didn't realize he was "calling the girlfriend." You know how guys can be about that stuff.
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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 11:51am
True but I do think he was secretly texting so as not to get the guys saying he was whipped or something. Still he knows better now.
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