It's been a while, but....

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It's been a while, but....
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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 8:49pm

I am in love....

Here's a shortened form of the story...

I got back in touch with an old friend from school. We have known one another 22 years...we were 12 when we met. I had been writing back and forth with him and talking on the phone, he's from my hometown and never moved. I was still happily or sort of happily married when we got back in touch, but we only spoke as friends. Anyway, we continued to talk after I split with Shane and he asked me if I ever come home. I told him yes that lately I had been quite a bit and he invited me to come hang out over a couple of beers and some food and just laugh about old times. Not a date, just two old friends...anyway, I drove home because my best friend would be in and he texted me at dinner to see what we were up to. I told him we were eating at Chili's and he said he went there a lot and wished he had taken the weekend off because he wanted to see me. I teased that we'd just bother him at work and he said to PLEASE come out and see him. So we did. He looked amazing!!! I immediately grabbed him and hugged him tight...he hugged back. We talked for like an hour outside and I couldn't tell you what we talked about because I was too busy looking at those beautiful brown eyes and those lips. Of course him walking away was an experience too....he's a cowboy and has a Wrangler butt!

Okay, just lost composure...

Anyway, I told him I'd be back in 3 weeks and we made plans to meet up then and go out. He texted me ALL NIGHT that night and and forth telling me how great it was to see me, how beautiful I am, and how amazing of a woman I am. We talked everyday and when it finally came to the day I was to see him, he took me to Chili's where we had dinner and some beers, talked nonstop, and laughed like never before. Some of his friends were there and we talked to them too and then he took me to his favorite hangout to hear a band he liked. BY then we were sitting close and even touching fingers some. After, we went back to his place and cuddled on his couch and next thing I knew, he tilted my head up and kissed me. Girls, that was the best kiss I have ever had and I felt something with him that I never felt in my life. That was 3 months ago today.

Since then, I have moved back home, not for him, but for my kids. I have gotten a great job, my own apartment and my new man and I are steadily seeing each other. And yes, we have said it...I love you. I met his family, the whole clan 3 weeks ago and he will meet mine in a couple more weeks. He's just the sweetest things, very truthful, never hides a thing from me. I trust him completely, which is strange for me. It feels so good to know that I can open up to him, be myself with him, not have to pretend a thing. And waking up in his arms...well, it's perfect.

Just wanted to tell you. I feel on top of the world!

Mel













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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 10:45pm

wow, that was an amazing story.. Nothing like finding love in a childhood friend.. feels like your life has not lost any continuity!


"waking up in his arms..".. I know what you are talking about. Recently Iam having those sweet experience.. Not exactly..lol.. we both dont get any sleep in my tiny bed if we try since I am restless till I sleep.. So we have to sleep separately and then we cuddle when we wake up.


Not to be nosy.. Did you have any feelings for him when you were growing up or when you have dated others?


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Sun, 10-21-2007 - 11:11pm

Wow Mel, not even a month dry of being separated, let alone divorced and you rush into something new?

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 9:08am

Mel, I've been wondering about you!


It sounds like your life is moving forward, and I'm happy that you're happy.


how are things going with Shane's visitation schedule?


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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 3:53pm

Where is the "Eeeek" icon?


I didnt know you thru the whole Shane thing Lissa, just those last months, & I agree with Al, sure, its GREAT to feel loved - & yeah, maybe this IS (i sure hope so) what you have been waiting for your whole life & its meant to be .... but it seems VERY fast. I pray it works out for you all - mostly your kids. Good luck.

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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 6:39pm
I have to agree with rlch and Alison, Mel. I mean it is possible to get lucky, but it did all go so fast and so soon after Shane and you are still not divorced yet and moved the kids and oh my gosh - so many things that make me so nervous to read.
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Mon, 10-22-2007 - 11:36pm
Also wanted to ask how things are going with Shane- has he stepped up to take a more reliable role as father?

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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:04pm

No, we were not in the same group of friends then. I was kind of a priss and he was and is a cowboy. I liked him and would have dated him back then and we were friends, just not best friends.

It's been cool though. We are just having fun and not worrying about what if or anything like that. He understands what have been through and he is being very sweet about it.

Mel













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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:10pm

No, not at all. I was separated from Shane for several months before Brian and I began to date. We are not rushing into anything, but we cannot help what we feel. We are so alike in the things we enjoy, we know almost all the same people, and it's just very comfortable. I can be myself around him and he never judges me. I mean, yeah it is sooner than I gathered, but he's a good man and he enjoys being with me as do I with him. He understands that I am not yet divorced ONLY BECAUSE SHANE HASN'T FILED....he can't afford it....he's not working...but we are both holding back a part of us because of my situation. No thought os marriage on my end. I mean he has said he wants me to be the one and all and I think that is amazing and I hope it turns out that way, but he also said that we would not marry for a long time to give me the chance to be independent for a while. I agree with that. We have the same views on family as well. As for Dylan's wish to stay put, he said he'd like to move close to family and it was the best thing for us. I ended up with a fabulous job paying very well....much more than elsewhere and I am happy. I don't see him every day, he rotates shifts, I have time with the girls to go out or to be alone. I am not up his rear 24/7. I have my own life and am no longer insecure. I am enjoying my own time as well as time with him. It is a happy balance that I have to say....works.

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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:11pm

We are working on Shane's visits. He is not taking her as much as he should, but he's seeing her. Life is good and I am happy to be home. Thanks for the support. I appreciate it...alot!

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Thu, 10-25-2007 - 7:14pm

It will be fine....Mel is in no hurry to get remarried or even move in...I am living my own life here and Brian is just the icing on the cake. Yes it's love, but we are taking it one day at a time...He knows where I am emotionally and he has known me my whole life....we're fine...no one is going to do anything we regret. He's been divorced 10 years and is still gun-shy since he's been burned so much. I promised myself I'd take my next relationship slow and I am....really!

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