Its comical really...

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Its comical really...
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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 4:33pm

Well.. I have to just laugh at this point.


You know how they say absense makes the heart grow fonder? Well.. I really think that is the case with Medic. We spent all day Sunday together and when I saw him I was so excited, gave him a hug, told him I missed him and got zip in return. I felt unwanted the whole day.. felt like I was a burden on his day even though this is something we planned and looked forward to.


I'm not going to go into all the details, but it just was not a fun day. I thought to myself.. should I make another snap decision and move on? Or wait, maybe all my snap decisions weren't really sanp decisions but just proof on top of proof that he is not the one for me?


I left there and went to my girlfriends house and chatted it up for a while over a bottle of wine. I came to the conclusion that Medic and I are settling for eachother. I don't think anyone is at fault. When you have two people who want the same things.. its very easy to just settle for the here and now thats right in front of you. Thats why I married my ex husband, and I really don't want to do that again.


So while I"m not dumping medic just yet.. I'm not feeling it. Something drastic would have to happen for me to really fall back into this. Being away from him for so long made it way to easy to fantasize about what a great man he was. Reality is a bit disapointing ya know?

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 4:43pm

Awwww....


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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 4:49pm

I don't know what exact part of your post to address, just that its a very insightful post. And I think you nailed it right on the head. Do you find yourself very clear minded about this conclusion? Or do you find you're still foggy about it and taking the "wait & see" route?


I do agree tho. It would be easy to settle since its daunting, the dating world, getting to know someone from scratch again, the scary first date jitters, etc. But at the same time, it has the positives to. Hmmmmmm I'm curious to know more about how settled you feel with this conclusion and what you think will happen from here

 

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:00pm

I would wonder what's

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:34pm

Hmm... well, everything felt very high schoolish with him on Sunday. There is a difference between goofing off and being silly vs. being very immature and thats what I saw. It was a huge turn off because it was the WHOLE time. Maybe reality kicked in for him also? Seeing me and realizing that I'm not the one for him also?


I am seeing now that Medic and I are eachother's "right now" until/if something better comes along.


I don't really feel like dating or meeting anyone new.. so I may still see him I'm not sure. I feel very emotionally unattached from it all.. and dating all together.


I did call last night like I always do.. the last time I didn't he got his panties in a wad. We talked briefly and I said call before you go to bed if you want. He said if I want? "Yah well if I WANT to talk to you I'll give you a ring". I didn't hear from him. Its just that constant high school behavior that is turning me off.. and I"m seeing more and more of it.


A quote from my OLD personal "If I want a third child I'll have one, not date one"


Gotta stand firm on that LOL

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:40pm

"If I want a third child I'll have one, not date one"

I love that quote and use it myself often.

I am sure once you let some more time pass, you'll make the right decision. In the meantime, BIG HUGS!

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 5:41pm

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Tue, 10-07-2008 - 8:21pm
All right now, chickie board rule, NO SETTLING!!!
 
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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 1:25pm
Wow that is childish behavior!! I love that quote you have there. I agree about settling. Don't waste your time on someone you have to settle for.
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