Its never normal...

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Registered: 12-10-2003
Its never normal...
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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 3:37pm
Oh My...went to visit my sister during Easter and since it was one of the girls b-days we went out for supper and some dancing and I start chatting with a nice looking guy and by pre-arangement my sister doesnt stray from eye sight until we are comfortable that this guy is okay. He was funny and could talk about a wide variety of topics (a definate plus) but after some time I noticed another guy standing just in the background and glancing over at us. I sort of shrugged it off but then the guy I am chatting with (mike) gives him a nod and the guy leaves but comes back with drinks! After chatting for close to half an hour he asks if I would like to get a table and sit and before I realize it this other guy "procured" us a table and then sat at the next table. I finally asked M what the deal was and he said it was an employee of his. What is up with that? Mind you there were no ominous vibes, on the contrary we had a wonderful conversation about world politics (I am a politics junkie)and he is an avid supporter of the ONE campaign to end poverty, we talked about family and and just silly stuff too all the while this other guy watched everyone around us. He was definately a body guard or something. What do you think? We danced some and then he treated us all to pizza and said if he comes to Stratford for a play he will look me up (I never gave him my #) as he doesnt actually live in Ontario. What do you think? I'll never see him again but I never encountered such a thing before.
Lisa
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 4:26pm

I haven't ever encountered such a thing before either, Lisa, but if you weren't intimidated or anything, then you just enjoyed the company of a nice guy for an evening, right?

Did he ever say what he did for a living? Maybe he just gets one of his buddies to act like that to impress women. Wish I had a "bodyguard" sometimes, let me tell ya!

It was strange, but I wouldn't be too weirded out by it if you didn't get any "creepy" vibes from him or his "man".


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Mon, 04-17-2006 - 4:40pm

you know I did think about the whole "set-up" scenario but the bogy guard guy was significantly older than him and I cant imagine a buddy doing the beck and call thing - if so I would want to date him instead! I did ask him what he did and I got a vague "travelling a lot" but the impression was not avoidance but privacy. Oh who knows...it was fun! Then I retunred to my cherished "regular" life wiht a slight sense of mystery and adventure and a story to tell!

Lisa

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Registered: 08-20-2004
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 5:52pm

I don't know, Lisa, that whole thing kinda just gives me the creeps... I think it was a good idea you didn't give him your number. That would be too weird of a situation for me, but I am the paranoid sort...

Anyway, be glad you had a fun night of it regardless!!

--snow :)

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 04-17-2006 - 8:56pm
I don't know - it sounds creepy to me. I would not like that he didn't introduce his employee. Or be up front with you about what is going on. It sounds shady to me.
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Registered: 08-04-2005
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 9:28am
Just because something is sometimes out of sorts, doesn't always make it bad or creepy. Yes, it sounds as if (from my own experience) he had his bodyguard along;
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Tue, 04-18-2006 - 10:35am

I agree that different doesnt necessarily mean creepy and I was careful but I did totally enjoy talking to him. I mean, its a big wide world out there and not every one you meet will fit into your frame of referance and he was just different then your run-of-the-mill-hey-baby type of club guy that I have encountered in my world! He was careful to stay in my comfort zone (close to my sister and friends) and didnt try to get me alone or anything red flag like that and as for him finding me again...I left some clues that if he were interested in doing a little work he could find me!

Lisa

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Registered: 12-20-2005
Tue, 04-18-2006 - 3:42pm

Maybe he's one of those ultra-rich guys and the guy with him was "his man", you know... like a PA. And he does all the little annoying things, like park his car, secure a table at the club, fetch the drinks, warm up the car when it is time to leave... stuff like that!! It isn't just in the mafia that people have people who do these things for them and what a world THAT would be to step into(the ultra-rich), even if for just a day...

... or a weekend ;-)