It's not even my kid?!?!
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It's not even my kid?!?!
| Mon, 09-18-2006 - 4:47pm |
I was friends with a guy before I started dating him - he knew I had a kid. Most guys will always insist that they don't have a problem with it. They get along fine - they seem to like each other. But here's the thing - I have known him for over a year, we have been dating for about 6 months. The other day we went out, and my kid has a musical toy and she was singing and dancing with other kids. Well the guy I am dating, says to the dad of the other kids, "Man, I hate that toy and it's not even my kid." I was pretty floored at that comment and didn't know what to say. I plan on saying something to him but would like some advice/comments/anything. Thanks.

My take on that was that it was a comment that was negative on the toy, not on your child. I had to read it a couple of times and put myself in his spot to figure out what he probably meant, and I don't think he meant anything bad by it.
I think it was a situation where there was SOMETHING about that musical toy that grated on him. I know you moms here must know about this- you have GOT to have had some toy that your kids have had that just aggravated you/annoyed you because of its sound, or volume, or repetitiveness, or something... and you wished that maybe it might disappear overnight. Because you LIVED with that toy day in-day out, living with it. Living with your child, PLAYING with that dratted toy, day in, day out.... (get the picture?) But it wasn't your kid that grated on you, it was the noise of that toy.
Anyway, So I think his comment was that the toy was THAT aggravating to him, that he didn't even have to live with the toy, hearing it day in/day out to hate it. He was spending only a short time with your child (and that dratted toy) and he was tired of it (the toy).
I seriously don't think he has any problem with your child, nor is he wanting no part of being in your child's life. I seriously think it's the toy that is on his sh!t list. I know I love my kids, but I seriously have had some of their TOYS on my sh!t list too. lol
I think that is all that is. If you talk with him and find out different, then let him go.
~shrimpy, dishing out 2 cents like pizza today
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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"I end up thinking that he will get tired of me not being able to do the things he can do - like going out w/ friends."
Who said you can't do those things?
That's why you should set up a regular sitter, a friend or family member, who will watch your daughter at least once a month- even for a few hours.