It's official "I'm the girlfriend" AND..

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It's official "I'm the girlfriend" AND..
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Sun, 05-22-2005 - 8:16pm

I'm falling in love and 14 more week countdown....

Yup, I moved up my plans and I am moving over in September.

Things couldn't be better. I'm falling in love with a man that is absolutely incredible. He is totally and completely into me, adores me, treats me like a princess and he has the most awesome personality I have ever met. I could go on and on about this guy. I wake up every morning to an email. During the day he'll send me an e-greeting. He calls every night to talk to me and then we can't seem to cut it down to under 2hrs a night.
We are totally on the same wave length. We finish each others sentences, we have the same ethics, morals, ideas, passions and yet we have just the right mix to make us a bit different. He likes to garden/landscape, I don't. I like to fish, he's never tried it. I'm political, he's not and he's sooo positive about everything and I am more negative and skeptical. LOL. Most of all, he is soooo funny. He just makes me laugh in any situation and he LISTENS. I am in total awe. I mean, I am just completely floored for the first time in more years that I can remember, if ever.

He's such a good man. He's family oriented, career oriented, ambitious, financially well off, loving, takes lot's of his time free for charity work. My cousin Laura was so right about him and she wrote me last week to tell me that he is really serious about me. She has never heard him, in all the years even before, during and after his marriage, talk about anyone like he does about me. He says their is no doubt in his mind, that I am "The one".

Anyway, I just had to gush to someone about it, because I haven't spoken to anyone really about it. I've mentioned it to my family so lala and I've mentioned it to my friends, but I have been somewhat cautious, because both of my best friends are going through a crisis in their relationships and I don't want to rub the wounds with salt because I'm happy and gushing about falling in love.

Ok, had to tell you all that. I missed you all. I will catch up on what's been going on this week. I just got back last week, but was trying to get life organized over here. Still! I haven't forgotten you and I love you all.

- Catherine

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This is all wonderful, Catherine. From what you say here, you have what it takes. Enjoy it now and relish each moment.

I can't wait for you to catch up - I have missed you - and now you will see I am CL - I hope to have your input on this board!!

It is so great that you can move back over in September. Did you have any luck at finding a job or house or anything else besides a BF? ;-)

Where are you now? Are you home? Or still in the US?

September will come up fast, girl.

BTW - we were all curious to hear what Scott had to say (that is his name - your former ex and SEAL).

HUGS!! SMILES!!

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First of all: Congratulations Judy for being CL. I was hoping you would go for the job and I am so excited that you did. BTW your picture looks fabulous!

I am back in Germany since last week and I wish I wasn't. The NEW boyfriends name is Scott as well. Soooo, we are going to have to figure out how to differentiate? Any ideas? Maybe the boyfriend "Scott" and the other the "Bonehead"? "Bonehead" and I had a massive drag out fight again on the phone and I told him to take a hike and I wasn't interested. Then I asked him about Childsupport and he hung up on me. So no word since then. His mother is FURIOUS with him. OH well. She thinks this new guy is wonderful and that he is really doing everthing to make my transition smooth. He is also the guy that happens to be finding me the jobs because he is a recruiting director for a Headhunter company and that is how we intially met through my cousin who got me the interview. As I had mentioned we met, had an interview, it clicked, but both of us were trying to be professional and then when I flew back to Texas we both signed up on the same day only half an hour difference on the same internet site and were matched up. WE finally realized it must be a sign. He's been lining me up terrfic jobs one after another, but everyone keeps telling me that they need someone right away and 3 months is just to long to wait. That completely freaks me out, that I might not have a job when I get their, but Scott is asking me to trust him that I will have one as soon as I get here. I am not to go on this trust issue, but Laura, my cousin keeps telling me that this guy is for real and I need to start letting go my past trust issues and give this guy a chance to prove himself.

I had a wonderful time in NC. It was gorgeous, the people are fantastic and I could imagine being very happy their. This was all before I saw Scott, so as he says, he is just the icing on the cake. All the other ingredients were already their and he's the bonus. LOL.

Ok, i gotta close for now, but I'll be online.

Again, big hugs and congrats on the CL.

Love ya'll,

Catherine

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This is all great, Catherine. Thank you very much for your compliments - you are so sweet. It is not me that makes this board - but all of the posters with their variety of opinions. I feel very honored to be the guardian!!

At any rate, I think you are in such a good place. You did absolutely great on the phone with your bonehead ex. He should think about child support!!

It sounds like everything will fall into place when you get here. If you are getting that many offers that want you to start now then you will get that 3 months from now. It is great that your cousin knows this guy. It all sounds meant to be.

I hope that your transition/move goes smoothly for you. I have no idea what is involved to move all the way here from Europe but I do know that no move is easy. Will your other ex in Germany let you go with the child? Or will you have to fight that?

Keep us posted - we are rooting for you.

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OMG, I forgot to tell you that. Custody hearing was last Tuesday. I won! I have full custody of Nina and the full support from the courts to take Nina with me to the USA. Only 10% of women receive full custody in Germany. Usually in the extreme case of child abuse, but because I have been patient with Harry for 5yrs and tried everything in my mind to get him to be a better father, they realized that I did everything right and the Child Services spoke in my name, that after interviewing both of us these last 9 months, that they see me as a wonderful mother figure and that the children are extremely well cared for and loved and that I deserve to have full responsibility of both children.

It was great! It was terrific! It was a sign that everything is falling into place.

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OMG - that is SUCH a relief.

Patience does pay off. You must have felt such a huge joy to hear that. Very good!!

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Congratulations Cat! I'm so happy to hear that things are falling into place so nicely for you and the girls. And just think, you met prince charming even with your hair looking like a "mushroom," as you called it! :)
Thank goodness everything worked out with the courts and you're all cleared to come back home. We'll be here to welcome you back.

Amy

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Yeah, the mushroom head was critical! I wore my hair up for 3 wks. LOL.
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That's wonderful about the new boyfriend and the custody case is truly a huge relief. I can't even imagine how stressed out you were being in court in Germany. It's bad enough going through the courts here, but you must have been afraid of not being able to leave Germany without your child. That's really wonderful.

Hooray!!!!