It's Wednesday, right? Woes for all!

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It's Wednesday, right? Woes for all!
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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:12pm
I can woe today about more....

Today, I called the owner's agent for our house and she is flip flopping on selling the house now. We were originally going to go buy a house with land, but decided to just stay here and buy this house and build up more wealth, pay off some bills and add on some stuff. We planned to add a bathroom, renovate the one bath we have, the kitchen and do lots of painting inside to make it our own. We planned to pay it off quickly, and sell it in 3-4 years and then buy our dream home.

Well, this news just ruins everything. The owner says she's not making any money on the rent, but also claims not to make anything on the house if it sells. What gives? So I'm talking to that agent, my agent and trying to come up with whether we need to move forward with finding a new place or staying here. Our lease is up in December so we don't have a bunch of time. I don't want to decorate a nursery just to have to do it again. So when the baby is born, I plan to be where I'm gonna live for a few years or forever.

It's frustrating. Why do people have to be so difficult? Why did she have to offer us the chance to buy this place if she wasn't sure?

What's your beef for the week?

Mel

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:31pm

Huge bummer about the house stuff Mel!


What's your beef for the week?


Getting up at 5:15 every morning, doing most ALL of the household chores myself (except for where Ty can help a little) and crossing town every evening to do J's share of picking Ty up after work because J is on 10 hour shifts, 6 days a week. WAAAHHHHH!!!!!!


I'll live but it sucks. ;)

Becky

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 5:32pm
This has been on my mind all day. My beef is people making negative comments about people they have never met, and judging people before they meet them.

I've been dating Paul for a little over a month. He was in California last week visiting his son. He got home yesterday and he called me last night. Unfortunately, his visit with his son didn't go very well, and he was kind of bummed about it. He told me that he and his son got into it about things that happened in the past, and he almost came home, but he decided to stay. But he said things were very awkward. Paul planned to go out to Cal. for Christmas or send his son tickets to come home, but he changed his mind. Because we have just started our relationship, I haven't met any of his family and he has not met mine either, but our families do know we are dating each other. Much to my surprise, my family has been supportive, and his has not (mother and son). I guess part of the problem with his son was that his son and his wife were very vocal about expressing their negative opinions about him dating me. They said I was looking for someone to take care of me and that I was dating him for his money. Paul told them it was none of their business and to butt out. Paul told me not to overanalyze it or be upset. I know he was upset about the comments. He even apologized for venting to me about his trip. He said he didn't mean to, he just called me because he missed hearing my voice. (Isn't that sweet). Maybe I'm being overly sensitive, but I thought the comments were rude, considering they never met me and know nothing about me. The funny thing is that nothing could be farther from the truth. When Paul first met me, he told me that he liked the fact that I was independent, had my own house and could take care of myself. I'm also not a materialistic person, and I've never dated a person because of how much money they make. I feel I'm being wrongly judged, and it kind of bothers me. However, I know I can't control what other people think. I would just like to be given a fair shake. First impressions can sometimes be wrong. I think my first impressions of Paul were wrong, that's why I gave him a second chance, and so far, so good.

Donna

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:09pm
Politics! I am getting so tired of all the negative advertising. I can’t watch my favorite morning news channel before work anymore because of it. Every commercial is the same, repeated over and over again and I have to sift through them to get to the weather and traffic. From now on, I’m checking online.

To top it off, I’ve been trying really hard not to get into the political debate at work. Up until now I had no idea who my co-worker’s were voting for or why. But today, I had the luxury of finding out as my office mate (who I share on office with) felt free to discuss her opinions about the presidential debates, belittling everything that the candidate I’m voting for did or said. Of course, she has no idea who I’m voting for because I didn’t take the bait. But…gaaahhhh!

I can’t wait for this to be over!

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:16pm
I hear ya! My ex husband heard that Shane made good money and when I tol dhim I was moving in he immediately said, "oh so going to let your sugar daddy pay your way thru life now, huh?" I was furious! He never met Shane nor did he have any idea what our relationship was about. He had no right to say such crap. Of course he's met him now and he's a lot more respectful, but if you saw how big my husband is, you'd be more cautious of your negativity too!

LOL


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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:24pm
That is pretty pathetic. Politics are nauseating me too. The mudslingning, the issue avoiding, all of it. None of the candidates just answer a question. They say what their campaign managers tell them to say and it hardly scratches the surface on any of the questions asked. Realy stupid if you ask me.

But I can relate to the whole negative comments thing. I think it's fine to vote for whoever you like, but don't thrust your opinions out there. No one else cares. Shane's family is very much to one side. I happen to be voting that way too, but if I were leaning otherwise, I'd feel horrible to hear such things. They criticize anyone who is for the opposing party. Talking about the lack of energy and brain power it takes to be a part of that party. I'd hate to be on the recieving end of that. And I'd feel strange letting them in on me being for the other party. I'd feel like they'd hate me for it. Shane is very supportive of my beliefs even if they differ from his. And some of them do. I know he'd be able to accept my voting the other direction if I were. I'm just ready for it to be over and I definitely hope the crappy comments are done when the election is over. Let it go. At least for four more years!

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 6:58pm
My woes . . .

The motorcross thing. Sick, sick, sick about it.

I hate my hair style (actually, my hair "style" grew out and it's in the dreaded in between stage - and I keep fluctuating between cutting it and letting it grow), but am chicken to get it cut the style I think is so cute, and am chicken to color it myself, but don't want to get it colored at the salon because what I want will require upkeep and I won't spend $80.00 every 6 weeks on getting my hair colored - and I'm even more chicken about getting my hair colored by anyone other than my guy (as the one time I did - the "caramel blonde" hilites I was going for were simply WHITE and everyone thought I was going gray prematurely - and it damaged my hair so bad that it wouldn't hold dye! So I was stuck with it until it grew out!) I know, that's silly. Oh well.

I'm going through some life/health stuff right now that I don't feel like sharing (no offense - it's so draining to even talk about!) and I'm tired of dealing with it. I just want to be 100% WELL.

My friends. He had an affair, she found out, they have been trying to work it out. Meanwhile, she's drinking (and WAS a recovered alcoholic with +/- 3 years of sobriety - so this is a BIG deal) alot and on Monday decided she can't try to work it out. It's too much. I ache for HIM cause I do love him but I can't believe he did this and I ache for her in every way imaginable - and for their two sweet kids.

TT is starting hot and heavy convention season again. This is bothering me REALLY bad for two reasons. One, I hate when he works so much and I'm charge of EVERYTHING! Two - I decided I really want to take a weekend solo trip and he can't tell me when I can go due to his DUMB SCHEDULE!!!!!!!!!

My truck is going in the shop. Little woe - major annoyance. Why can't cars run forever with just gas???? What is this "maintenance" bull crap???? And what's with the price of gas? I paid $2.27 a gallon today. Geesh.

And someone else said it - but I'm just DONE with this election - not only presidential, but senatorial, county commissioner, the state initiatives, etc., etc., etc. I don't want to see one more commercial, one more billboard, hear one more radio commercial, see one more print ad, get one more junk mail flyer, be asked one more time if I know who I'm voting for, I'm done. Done, done, done. And tonight is the debate so now I'll have to hear about THAT for the next 3 days. And it's not like either of them answer the questions, anyhow. And doesn't everyone know who they are voting for by now?????? Anyway!

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:34pm
"Well, this news just ruins everything."

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Maybe not - what if this prompts you to find something better?

The best nursery is in your arms - don't sweat the decorations too much now.

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Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:37pm
Sorry to hear your beef. That would tick me off too. I think you have to realize the animal you are dealing with - the outer family will not always like you and if they are unhappy people they will just look for more things to be unhappy about. Keep your head up high and don't let them get to you. It is not you, it is them.
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 6:38am
I guess I am lucky right now - the only woes are my fatigue from a triathlon this past weekend. I placed 2nd in my age group - have never placed that high before. My son topped that - he placed 1st in his age group (8 year olds) and 2nd overall out of 56 7-10 year olds - I will post pictures soon in the bragging section - have to go to Walmart today to pick those up.

I am catching up on rest - but the house is falling apart ;-) - time to clean.

I don't have a Mr. Wonderful but my eyes are open and the opportunities as big as the sky. I really feel at peace with that and know I am not going to settle.

Big hugs to everyone on this board. I always enjoy reading and answering messages.

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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:34am
Well I have one more. Part is good the other is bad. Shane's friend decided to take us out to dinner this Saturday night. Sounds good. He said something like Red Lobster or Outback Steakhouse. I like both. So does Shane. I was all psyched abut it until Shane said he MIGHT be back in time to go to dinner. So this means he didn't listen to me at all about the importance of the anniversary and he's going anyway to Dallas without me. I thought I had gotten thru to him in the car about how much it meant to me to be together that day and since he was taking the day off and his friend is working, we'd be alone. Tee off isn't until noon. Dallas is two hours away. Do the math here. His friend seemed put off too because this is something he wanted to do and might not be able to because Shane is not sure he'll even be home until at least 7 but maybe later. I think 7 o'clock is a bit ambitious considering it's golf and games take a while.

A good thing is that my friend told me that a friend of her (that Shane and I have met and liked) has decided to stay in town after all and has a big house he wants to share with a room mate. It's abut 10 minutes out of town, but it's very nice. He's single and has a great room that Shane's friend could very possibly rent out and I'm sure he'd be good about the price. Plus it's already equipped with satellite TV! Sounds like a dream! She also said that he could fix Shane's friend up with some girls, which would be awesome for him. He wants a girlfriend.

Maybe this will work out.

Mel

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