I've decided to take on something evil..
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I've decided to take on something evil..
| Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:59pm |
a new FWB. I think I mentioned a while back that I was going to see my X guy that I had dated 18 months ago. He would sometimes just push my buttons for no reason, but the main reason, was because I thought his tattoos were really embarrassing (two unicorns on his back), but I remember in the aftermath thinking at some point it was really dumb of me.
Wellllllll, he's contacted me a few times a while back

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I say if you can handle the emotional part then go for it!
Hey- if you can do a FWB and not get attached- then more power to ya, and have fun!
For me, I just know I couldn't do it. A ONS-fling type of thing I might've done when I was younger-
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I had one in California for two years,
I thought had a FWB when I met this woman off Friendster.com (gee you would think she would be from that website LOL).
It really is a mental thing. You CAN'T allow yourself to get involved and it's better to pick someone that YOU know you CAN'T be with.
The guy in Cali was not my type for a relationship. I had my youngest DD and it was important that didn't get involved, because he was a swinging single, the guy in Germany was out of a strict muslim family and they were looking for a wife for him, the guy here in NC is a major playboy billionaires son. The guy here is a very rich and many women kind of guy; total bad boy, not my type relationship wise, because i don't think he's calmed down.
I choose people that are great fun, great looking, great sex, but just not the relationship material. It's easy to have my mind open then. I just can't handle a relationship. TOOO much work right now. I have way to much going on and I am just OVER it. Being wined and dined and then great sex is enough for me. :)
I did find it interesting though, Cat- that in another one of your responses in this thread, you said that you didn't think he would be relationship material at the moment- but added that you didn't know for sure. So does that mean you think there is a chance for a relationship to bud out of this? I think that is the hardest "fine line" to walk when doing a FWB- because there HAS to be SOME attraction there for both parties to start with... and wouldn't it be too easy for one or the other to start developing feelings later, over that attraction?
I guess that's why I can't do a FWB situation. If I was attracted to someone enough to want to have sex with him, I would also be attracted enough to want a relationship with him as well. If he isn't relationship material and I know it wouldn't go anywhere... then the whole idea of sex with him would go out the window!
So on that channel between the heart and the vagina... for me, there's a lock on it. LOL (but in reality, I think it's more like a channel that goes from the heart to the brain, THEN down to the vagina... and so things tend to stop if my BRAIN isn't into it as well- rather than a direct heart-vagina link)
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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If i wasn't sooo busy at work right now... i would jump into this conversation... but alas...
I'll probably get a chance to comment at 7 pm when everyone else is offline. :-(
Loonybunny
Yeah, I did say that BUT I don't feel it whatsoever. And if I don't feel it now, I don't think it'll come. It's never happened that way. Remember that friend jesus sandals? Same thing. This guy is basically the same deal. Wonders may happen, but I don't see it happening. And both of us said, we just want to be left alone from the whole relationship thing.
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