I've decided to take on something evil..

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I've decided to take on something evil..
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 2:59pm

a new FWB. I think I mentioned a while back that I was going to see my X guy that I had dated 18 months ago. He would sometimes just push my buttons for no reason, but the main reason, was because I thought his tattoos were really embarrassing (two unicorns on his back), but I remember in the aftermath thinking at some point it was really dumb of me.


Wellllllll, he's contacted me a few times a while back

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 10:29pm

Thumbs up to an FWB... i'm surprised that i'm not getting attached, but i'm not.... perhaps because i don't have time for a relationship either.. and sex is FUN.... hello.

My only other real FWB was when i was 29 and the guy was 20.. It would not have worked out as a relationship and i would not have wanted him to meet my kids... it was just the most freeing and liberating sexual experience that i have had up til then... (i was sooo repressed before then).... We connected.... And what was funny was that he was sooo much younger (my first younger guy) truthfully, i didn't know his age until afterwards.... And he said, so do you have time in your life for a younger guy... how sweet. It was sweet and yet ya just knew it wouldn't be anything more... it didn't last long though... perhaps three months. He made me feel young again... and his stamina.... i mean, it had been a long time since i had been with a young guy (know what i mean)... So i was impressed .....

And i also thumbs up the tall, dark, handsome.... That's what i like about Sean. He's hot... visually, i feel spoiled. FWB is much better than BOB, imho....

you know what works for you.. and you have us to keep you in check...

Cheers!!!

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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 10:33pm
>>the goofy anatomy link<< LOL... when i read that .. i was thinking backwards.... severe the link between the vagina and the brain, and hence it won't connect back to your heart.... On second thought... i just sound like i've done something stupid if i don't involve my brain... d'oh...
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Registered: 06-27-2007
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 11:16pm

I think if you can truly enter into this with no expectations, no worries about it becoming dramatic or stressful....then you should go for it and enjoy!

 


 

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sat, 09-22-2007 - 1:23pm

Hey, I must be a really "cold" scorpio then!. Last night my guy and I went for dinner and I had few sips ( may be just 3 ) of wine with him.. Looks like I have totally no tolerance to alcohol of any kind. When we were driving back he already started rubbing my legs through my skirt.. I was feeling bit sexy at that time.. But soon as we stepped in.. I was like almost asleep.. I think ( I cant even remember well..lol) he tried a lot to have sex last night.. and finally resigned.. sheeshh. He said this mornig that he was feeling very randy all night and was not letting me fall asleep for several hours..


grrr..I must do something about my sex drive or I will really dissapoint my guy!. Do you have any suggestions? I know that I need to

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Sat, 09-22-2007 - 1:25pm
also wanted to ak all those who consider FWB: How do you ensure you are safe..I mean if the other person is "clean"..if they could sleep with other women also?
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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:48pm
From your Sister-in-Unemotional-Sex .... I say GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:53pm

Funny Mark, i was JUST talking about that idea last nite - that DOES a FWB interfere with your really looking for a realationship?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:55pm

Exactly. My young Boston Boy is SO hot, SO cute, SO naive, lol.

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Sat, 09-22-2007 - 3:58pm

Well, it IS a chance. Using condoms of course, mostly is the best you can do.

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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:35am

I had a FWB years ago, but ended it because I felt I was starting to get attached. This most recent guy suggested it but I turned that down just because he was not a good candidate.

If you can be honest with yourself and your partner would be a good candidate, I say go for it.