I've said this once, I'll say it again..

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I've said this once, I'll say it again..
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Sun, 03-16-2008 - 11:36am

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Sun, 03-16-2008 - 12:12pm

I just got back from San Antonio, and your post was at the top of the stack.

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"maybe your demographic pool needs a good dose of chlorine."

LOL, That is a good one. I too had good success with OLD (Match.com/chemistry) but I did meet M IRL at the kids' pool.Talk about chlorine! We both were on Match, but had not had our profiles visible at the same time. I agree that the profile has to be written to filter the players out and where you live will effect the numbers of available men who are comfortable with OLD themselves. I met a lot of engineers since Raytheon is a big employer here.

If your ad keeps pulling in guys you really don't want, rewrite the profile. Or widen the search if you are in a rural area. There isn't a lot to do if the population of available men is too small.

QueenBun

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Ok, but none of you are with men from OLD. No matter how great of an experience you may have had. As for meeting someone at the pool although he may be on match.com, I again, re-instate you actually didn't meet him that way and you probably wouldn't have. You met him at the pool. Sooooooo, basically so far we are at 0. ;-) AND I did state that sometimes there is great possibilities and I've had FANTASTIC OLD dates, but there was always an issue later to why it didn't work. I had better relationship and longer lasting one's with those I met personally some place else and not on OLD. I think that is the difference.

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Cat, you know why I'm not dating.

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I have met better prospects on OLD than real life. And our own firstammendment met a wonderful one she married from match and if I am not mistaken momoftwins met her man on EH. And Shrimps hiker is from match.

I don't think you can make sweeping statements about how to meet because anything goes and I don't think it is a matter of HOW you meet - it is more of a matter of WHO you are and WHO you meet. My cousin met a wonderful man in an upscale bar for happy hour. My sister met her husband through a friend. But when they met these men, there was no such thing as OLD.

I think there are a million ways to meet a man. I think you just have to be in the right place at the right time.

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Thanks. Please remove my post, it's obvious I am a little raw. I'll show up when I'm ready again. Thanks for the support.
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I have to agree, West. You just have to be in the right place at the right time. M was planning on posting a new profile on Match when he got back from his vacation, the one he took with his girls right after we met. If he hadn't worked up the nerve to talk to me before his vacation, he certainly would have noticed me on Match, recognized me, and it would have played out pretty much as it did. We got to know each other through e-mail and phone calls initially because he was gone for 2 weeks. So, not so different from OLD.
I also think one does better with OLD if taking the attitude that it is just dating, if something more happens, great. I think most men aren't looking for more than dating at first. It is after they get to know you that they start to see the possibility of a future together. Hopefully, we are feeling that way about them, too.
I certainly have single mom friends who don't do OLD and only meet men IRL. Neither of those women is in a relationship and they have been divorced longer than I. I just got lucky and was in the right place at the right time, and at a point in my life that I was open to the possibility with M.
I also think that if one is on this board, it is because we aren't married, regardless of where we met the guy in our life now. So the sample of results is skewed towards non success. Once we are successful, we move on to a married board, I suppose.

QueenBun, who thinks OLD is what you make of it, and not for everyone. Only we know what we are most comfortable with

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I have to admit...one of my most favorite things about OLD is that I can weed out men BEFORE dating them! I don't have time to go out on numerous dates looking for someone who is possible potential, and OLD lets me "meet" men online and decide before dating whether they are possibly potential material ahead of time. I've talked with a lot of guys I've met on OLD, but have only dated a few. Plus it is nice to spend time when I have it to talk with someone and not just when we both can get together to communicate.

Kristy

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Queen said: "I also think that if one is on this board, it is because we aren't married, regardless of where we met the guy in our life now. So the sample of results is skewed towards non success. Once we are successful, we move on to a married board, I suppose."


When you put it that way, I really feel like I am a misfit here. I look at other message boards like "life in your 30s", " LIving together","May December..". But when I have any problem, I get a good advice and discussion only in this board. I happened to come here regularly long time ago when I was just browsing and read some dating stories that "myprecioustwo"had written. I didnt notice that it is really a "single mothers.." board. I wanted to read what she is writing every week. and then I found everyone here to

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