Joint Psyc meeting was tonite, AAARGH!

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Joint Psyc meeting was tonite, AAARGH!
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Mon, 11-19-2007 - 6:51pm

I am WIPED. He is EXHAUSTING. I swear, I cannot fathom if he is just plain old crazy, if he is sociopathic & truly doesn’t believe anything he does/did &/or justifies it, or if he seriously has NO MEMORY or truly believes himself. Or the more likely scenario, he is just a liar. Thru & thru.


I will try to be brief. The doc began by saying to him "You look angry" & he said "Well, I am, very. She tool everything from me".


The gist of the meeting in X’s eyes apparently, was blaming me for leaving him "for no reason". For "taking his daughter away with no reason", for "taking his home & dogs away, with no reason". I replied with incidents that forced me to file for the restraining order to have him removed (3 yrs ago) - (jacking me 3 ft off the floor by my neck, against the wall - threatening to get the baby & dogs out & burn the house down with me in it - throwing a HUGE butcher knife on the counter near me during a fight & trying to make me pick it up "to get my fingerprints on it so he could call & tell them I tried to stab him" - & the last incident, of threatening (over the phone) that if I ever stepped foot back in the house, he would rip me to pieces, tear me to shreds, etc). He was APPALLED I would "make those things up". I swear, he is SO believable if you didn’t know him - he seemed SO flabbergasted that I would "lie like that" & "make things up like that". More than once he insisted I was sick & needed help. The doc asked him if he was drinking some of those times - AND pointed out maybe he DID do those things, but blacked them out. He caught X is SO many questionable issues. Eg: X admitted to blacking out, then said he remembered every single incident. X also blatantly lied that he never refused the visit last week when offered, & said that my email probably was so "mean" he didn’t read it. The doc confronted him & said "I have copies of it all, & she was completely appropriate, yet you refused AND told her to contact your atty." He said "Oh, well, I never read her emails anyway". Duh.


So, the doc guides him back to the issue at hand - Averey. Visitation. At 1st, he had X saying that he would commit to being a father, & would take her all my work nites (2-3 a week overnite). Which my stomach turned at ... but I knew it want anything written in stone. I think he was just feeling him out. So then as we got into heated discussion about "my lies" about all the things he has said & done to & in front of Averey, that he vehemently denies, the REASONS I stopped visitation - he started blatantly lying about things, such as, "My daughter does call me, but has to call from the closet b/c her mother forbids her to call". I tried to explain I never EVER have stopped her from calling, UNLESS he was out of control. He also said things about how he has found out "so many things about Rebecca since the divorce, she isn’t the person I thought she was". We talked a lot about how he wont call Averey, but yet blames her if she doesn’t call him. He said "She SHOULD be calling me, Im her father. & Im not calling that house, MY old house".


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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 5:44am

lol re: TAZ

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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 8:10am
If I was you, I would want to schedule a private session with the psych to see what he thinks about the session and the stability of Taz - and also if you should worry about your safety and where you should go from here - does he think this is something that will improve or worsen over time.
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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 10:12am

I am so sorry that you have to go through all of this and I feel so bad for Avery!

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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 3:44pm
Will do that. Thanks

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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 4:16pm

((((Rebecca))))


Taz the ex is delusional psychopath, and I'm not just saying that because I am in a man hating mood today. I am sorry I know he is your ex and how hard it must be for you. You only want the best for Averey and who could not want a healthy relationship between her child and her dad. Unfortunately right now in his delusions he is not capable of being a stable, reliable father. I am so sorry! It infuriates me that a "man" would let his anger toward his ex overshadow his fatherhood responsibilities. That is NOT a father! Hang in there, and I feel you have done a wonderful job, not only at your persistance in your counseling and sorting things out, but with your steadfast and consistant love and welfare for your daughter. Thank GOD you are there for her. My best wishes....


~Pacific~

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Tue, 11-20-2007 - 6:15pm
Thanks Pac. Such a MESS he is making of his life!

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