Judy, haven't heard one from u either...

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Judy, haven't heard one from u either...
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 10:44am
lately. What's up with the life guard? How is the dating world in general. What's going on?
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Tue, 07-31-2007 - 4:43pm

Cat, thanks for asking - that is sweet of you. Lifeguard and I are doing very good. We are seeing each other a couple of times a week and he calls every day and sends a text from work. This past weekend I visited him while he was working and he made a huge fuss over me and I had fun swimming - I was there to do a long ride and run and then decided to swim too.

Our kids were away at the same time and just got back at the same time - so we were both busy with them this past weekend. But we are making plans for his next day off - he has a beach he is taking me to - where we can run, swim and ride his new paddle board. I think we are going to get some biking in one morning, too. So, it is rolling along. I am happy. I feel balanced - that I can focus on my life - and let this one go at its own pace. I think all the time I spent away from dating and working on the stuff I like so much has paid off. And I think that we are both pacing it well.

On the life front things are good too - DS just got back from a vacation with his dad. His dad's family is always a little challenging to say the least. I guess I could sum it up that they were sort of raised to be selfish and when you get a bunch of people together like that it doesn't always go so smooth. DS is very glad to be home and I am so happy to have him home. I worked hard to add some new things to his room so it was like a true homecoming.

And my training has me shelled right now - I am in the biggest week of my life getting ready for a race that is a few weeks away. This morning I had to run 2 hours in the heat. I had to soak my legs in ice afterwards and then take a nap. DS has his best friend here so I spent some time in the kitchen making pizza and brownies - and am going to work late to get all the work done.

So that is about it for now.

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 9:02am

WOWWWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!! THAT WAS AN AWESOME UPDATE!!!

And you REALLY sound HAPPY! I am glad everything is going so well for you with work, the upcoming triathalon and Life Guard. I am sending you a HUGE HUG for the endurance, the energy, the positive vibes, ambition, courage and giving all of us so much hope, reflection and willingness to make our lives better. Teaching us that each of us has to have the courage to build their own yellow brick road to get to the end of the rainbow and savor the outcome of achieving it on our own, not letting someone achieve it for us. You are a true mentor in my book.

- Catherine

Edited 8/1/2007 9:04 am ET by myprecioustwo
PS: I can't write today, sorry for all the edits.




Edited 8/1/2007 9:06 am ET by myprecioustwo
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 11:52am

Thanks, Cat. I just have always been a believer in building your own life and happiness because if there is one lesson I have learned in life, that is that everyone, at some point, is going to let you down or do something you don't like - it is just human nature. And that is why we have to set boundaries and be responsible for our own happiness. And I like to be my own person and not depend on other people.

I think one of the times I was my most miserable was when I was married to my exh and he treated me so badly because I quit my job to stay home with DS. He made me feel totally worthless and the whole thing was hard for me since DS was so colicky and our budget was scary low. I think that is what put a fire in me to build my business so much. But I was also at fault for letting him make me feel that way - although he was just a bad person and there is not much I can do except what I did and that is to divorce him because he never wanted to take ownership for his actions and how they made me feel.

I like the lifeguard a lot. But at the same time I have resigned myself to the fact that half of it is in his hands - and we need time to let it develop at its own pace. So far so good. I am proud of myself for not going off the deep end and for letting him move it forward, which he is doing, but at a good pace. I like him and don't want to be hurt as I have in the past - but that is the risk we all have to take to have a relationship. But so far it feels easy. We are on the same page with a lot of things in our lives. Kids, triathlons, work/life balance, fitness, time and stuff like that. He is very sweet and accommodating and into me and that is huge for me.

I think since my life is so good and busy and full that I can stay balanced. The road to get here after the divorce was not easy - but all of a sudden it just came together. I think that is because I put me first. I learned to set boundaries with my parents, my sister and my exh. I learned I have to be happy and that means I cannot say yes to everything or worry about other people's approvals.

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 12:11pm

What a fantastic update! You truely are an inspiration. Congratulations... you know all of us here are in your corner and will be cheering for each and every mile that you cover!

I hope to one day run a 10K (sorry I'm Canadian not sure what that translates to in the imperial system) or a mini-triathlon but I cannot imagine ever doing an Ironman or working my body so hard that I have to ice my legs! Have you always been into fitness or did your interest evolve after your divorce?

PS... things with Lifeguard seem to be very comfortable - sounds like you have found your equilibrium....

Rose

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 3:19pm

How do you soak your legs in ice?

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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 4:23pm
You sit in a tub of cold water and pour in the ice. It is cold but if makes your legs recover much faster than if you didn't do it - they suddenly feel like they never ran 11 miles. An old runner's trick!