Just found my friends husband on Match!
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Just found my friends husband on Match!
| Thu, 03-20-2008 - 7:27pm |
OMG! I was helping a friend make her profile & up pops my freinds H's pic. A isnt a VERY good friend of mine, but IS a very good accquaintance. Ave & her dd have been freinds since pre-school. We have been at many adult & kids paties together, taken the girls to the Ice Capades, etc.


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R, I found out that my XH was prowling for women when a friend of mine sent me his profile with the note, "Isn't this XH??" I wanted to tell his wife, but she wouldn't have believed me.... so I kept quiet. I'd certainly tell a friend, though...... you done good!!!!
~calla~ mom to rosie and gracie
That really, really sucks. And is a fear of mine with the onlne dating and dating in general. Its in the back of my mind, how would I know if the guy I'm with/end up with wouldn't ever have an ad up somewhere on the side? I mean, you get to know someone as best you can, but let's face it, some people are excellent liars. I would be devestated. Especially since they were in councilling and trying to reconcile. Shows her DH wanted "something lined up just in case" for either way. He just doesn't want to be alone. Pisses me off.
I recently was contacted by someone, we chatted, flowed well, were making plans to meet up and then I found him on facebook. He was engaged until about 2 weeks ago. A-hole. LOL I immediately msn'ed him "not gonna happen"
Rebecca- have you decided if you are going to say anything? I really like the church sign idea, sent to him annonomously!!
I have a question for you all that this situation
If it were me and I had this information I would keep it to myself.
That's pretty much where I lean, too Angie. I really don't want to ever say anything..but sometimes my conscious gets me and I feel bad for her. I think to myself, what if I was married and someone had this kind of info about my husband. Because it's (hopefully) all in the past I should never say anything. But sometimes I think maybe if she and I are talking over wine as we sometimes do, if the subject ever came up by her regarding her husband, if she were to go there I would be honest and tell her what I know.
It's kinda hard to go over there sometimes and socialize with this guy who I know this dirt about.
Hey- how about a church sign for him? " I Know what you did with ____.
LOL about the church sign... that would definitely keep him on his toes!
You must not have read through entirely, in that 1st post i related what she said when i DID tell her ..
" Well, thankfully, she wasnt TOTALLY in the dark. I HAD to tell her. I was so scared though! I just called her now & asked if she coudl get a minute alone to talk & she said that she was at a freinds so she wasnt at home. I told her what I found. She was FLOORED ... but thank GOD, she said they are on the way to seperating, but in counseling together ... he doesnt want to break up ... yet he has an Match Profile up!?!!?
I just thought of another instance i had to tell someone - this one was STRESSFUL!
My X has a brother who is a jerk as well. He was cheating repeatedly over the years on my SIL, whom i was very close to thru my marriage. They lived nearby & we were both married to total jerks, brothers. They finally broke up about a year b4 i kicked Taz out, but then they got back together off & on.
OOPS! Somehow I missed that you called her. It's good you did- that was brave of you. But dang, if it was me I would want to know, too. Yes- it must have been hard for her to hear even though she sort of knew anyway. And the poor child!!!
God what an idiot for putting a profile online. Some guys think with only the southern head.
As for my friend/acquaintence- I'll keep my cool unless she ever asks me directly. I still like the anonymous church sign though...hehe...but I'll resist the tempation to go there. What a jerk for having even gone there- even if was a couple years ago. And this guy is a control freak, too- always watching who she talks to, who her friends are, etc etc. I know that's her business though-
WOW....that is DRAMA.
Another good instance of telling. I think that if I find out that this guy I know is actively still cheating, I will say something anonymously. I could not let on it was me telling, because I'd be in hot water. She's so kind and sweet. I'm keeping my eyes and ears open.
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