Just how hard is it?
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| Fri, 05-26-2006 - 1:29pm |
Hi All
I know this may seem silly, but just how hard is it to be a single mom and to try and date. I'm relatively new to the board so I'll provide a little background which might help frame my question above. I just turned 34 and am dating a man who is separated from his wife. They've been separated for about 7 years and I really don't know if/when the divorce will be finalized. Long story short--I currently have no children, but I'm tired of waiting for Mr. Right. And even if I found Mr. Right, I'm not sure that I would be willing to put in the time and effort to making a realtionship work before getting married and getting pregnant. So, I'm thinking of trying to get pregnant in Sept using donor sperm. I'm fortuate enough that I have a career that will allow me to be a single mom and use an au pair for child care.
Everyone always says that being a single mother is very hard; and I don't dobut that it is. But from my perspective, it's not like I would have had a husband/father who used to help out and now doesn't. Maybe I'm just going with the ignorance is bliss concept. I read many posts on this board about mom's struggling with child support, visitation, new gf/bf, etc. I'm just not sure I want all that. I know that I want a child, but I'm not sure I want a husband/father or that I'm willing to wait for him to 1) appear 2) be ready for what I want when I want it. And as for the father figure in my child's life, my brother has said he would fulfill that role as would any number of my male friends whom I've know for over 20 years.
So really, I just want comments on how hard you find it being a single mom. Do you wish that you had a spouse? Is it better being single or when you were married? Are men really turned off by women with children?
Thanks for providing input

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I always said that if I wasn't married by a certain age that I would have a child on my own.
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