this just makes me sad...

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this just makes me sad...
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Sun, 05-08-2005 - 10:29pm

I don't find *woman's name* physically unattractive. She's petite, and firm with yummy headlights. She's got a fun sense of humor and thinks I'm cute. That's why I'm interested in *woman's name*. I haven't made her any promises and haven't asked for any.
God, Candi why do ALL relationships have to be THE relationship?
You sound like you think men and women are alike and have the same agenda in life. Two people (or any other creatures) of different genders mating for life is more of a rarity than it is the norm. What you're looking for may or may not exist for you out there, but it will probably be the result of devine intervention or a fluke of the universe if it is. I wish you all the luck in the world.
I know you're not just waiting around for the person of your dreams. Looking can be one heck of a lot of fun too as long as one's expectations don't make one wacko.
And please forgive us males for being like we are. If we could be something else we would be.
Love you!!!!!

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The person who wrote above is my brother. Makes me sad that we have such different views of relationships...I guess at least he's honest about it. *sigh*

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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 4:08pm

LOL, but I don't flirt with him, I'm not even NICE to him.

There is one bad part about being patient though, right now. I wonder if Grady is alright. He was only a month off of his surgery and his incision was bothering him the day we talked. *sigh*...

I'm too much of a motherer.

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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 6:04pm

LOL!! He was pretty hilarious with what he said about the Japanese and your husband!!

I feel like an impatient princess waiting in her castle for the prince - I wonder if my hair is going to grow as long as rapunzel's? I have had some devilish urges to run wild and get as much done now as I can before I am shackled!! I am working on a list - like get certified for diving, getting the pool, shopping, having my teeth made better - stuff like that - oh - and maybe a shopping trip to the site that Orange Clouds suggested for us!! LOL!! HAH!!

I would not worry about Grady - he will live!! No mothering!!

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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 9:26pm

I just saw this poem for single moms and thought of you:

After a while you learn the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul,
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises,
And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up
and your eyes open, with the grace of an adult,
not the grief of a child,
And you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain,
After a while, you learn that even sunshine burns
if you get too much.
So plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong...
And that you really do have worth!
by Veronica A Shoffstall

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Tue, 05-10-2005 - 11:23pm

Have you read Anne Morrow Lindbergh's "Gifts from the Sea" ? I love that book...

the poem reminds me of that.

I don't feel like I'm waiting for any prince. I heard one of those angst ridden love songs I used to identify with today "Bring me to Life" by evanescence. And I couldn't get into the feeling of it at all. I don't need some male person to "wake me up, bring me to life"...I am alive and having a hella good time at it. And I know who I am. It was a good feeling to not get into the angst ridden crap. Very good.

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